(Closed) Reschedule wedding…again??!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Do we go on with the Sept wedding and risk not having the best man, or reschedule again?
    Go ahead as planned! The best man is too much of a wild card and you're not getting younger. : (24 votes)
    92 %
    Swallow your pride and reschedule! FI needs his best man and he lost Hawaii for your MOH. : (2 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Sorry but I would not reschedule my wedding for my moh or bestman. Its different if we are still at the beginning stage and havent finalized the dates… but once invites have been ordered, and favors printed, the dates are final and will not be changed.

    Post # 4
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    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    This doesn’t stop you from moving on with your life. You can still move and live with your Fiance. I honestly would not reschedule for a Maid/Matron of Honor or best man…this isn’t about them, it is about you!

    Post # 5
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I wouldn’t reschedule again, for the reason that it could get annoying for your guests. Rescheduling once is ok, but twice starts to become an inconvenience, even for close friends and family. 

    I understand your situation, and I’d feel kind of bad not making the same concession for Fiance that he’d made for me, but I really think there’s a limit to how much you guys can reschedule this thing. And throw in the fact that the best man’s schedule is so uncertain–I really think you’ve just got to go ahead with it. 

    If the best man does miss your September wedding, maybe there’s some way that you can include him… like maybe he could record a video of himself toasting you guys, and you could play it at the reception?

    Post # 5
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    907 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Have any of your guests already made travel arrangements? I feel for your Fiance, I really do, but I wouldn’t change the date again.

    Post # 6
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    7412 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I’m with @bells. Once things are final, no moving. And a year is too long.

    Post # 7
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    7412 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I’m with @bells. Once things are final, no moving. And a year is too long.

    Post # 8
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    3866 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @bells: this.  If money has exchanged hands, invites or STD’s (save-the-dates) have been sent, it isn’t fair to your GUESTS.  

    You’ve bought dresses and everything.  The date is set.  Unless you want to anger everyone else and take the chance of your sister not being able to come, let alone the rest of the family, you’d be better off keeping the date.  

    Also, what’s to say the best man would be able to make it NEXT YEAR also???

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    my thing is… if you keep readjusting to fit EVERYONES schedule, you can get married when you are 101 years old.

    stick to your guns, it sounds like you and him have been through alot together.  I understand him wanting his Bestman, and you wanting your Maid/Matron of Honor and  both of you wanting family/friends etc… However, somethings gotta give.

    I know as a guest, I would be mad if a wedding kept getting rescheduled and probably wouldn’t go at all, because “who knows, maybe this time won’t be accurate either”

    sorry that came out sarcastic and rude:(  But its time for YOU TWO to get on with YOUR lives together, as Mr. and Mrs:)  And you can always hold a reception or whatever when you get back.

    that is just my opinion.

    Post # 10
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    3157 posts
    Sugar bee

    i wouldn’t have done it in the first place, but definitely not the second time! if you have everything pretty finalized I wouldn’t change it.

    Post # 11
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    629 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Giiiirl I feel your pain! We picked our date, thinking that my FH’s brother would be back from his tour in Afghanistan by then. BUT he got delayed going out, and now most likely won’t be back in time. What to do? We already paid the deposit for our venue, but considered changing the date anyway. In the end, we decided to keep the date because what if we change it, and someone else can’t make it, or other thigs come up. It really sucks that he may not be there, but sometimes you just have to push forward and pray that a miricle might happen (sometimes they do!)

    Post # 11
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    1398 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    You are less than 3 months out, I would say nothing less than death should be reason enough to reschedule. You’ve waited long enough for your day, you should have it, as planned, when planned.

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