Member- 88Mwifey
- 10 years ago
- Wedding: June 2009
Hey guys! I have loved spending my days looking through the boards and blogs, getting more and more excited about planning a day to celebrate the love my FH and I share. We met in jr. high and spend 5 years as friends before we decided to take the next step. He enlisted in the Army this summer, wanting to be able to secure a future for us and our future children. He proposed on November 26, and since he told all of my family about his intentions before he did it, I jumped headfirst into planning. However last night, when I was talking to him about our date (we had decided on September 12, 2009), he told me he had some sad news. He just found out that he is getting deployed in January 2010, and he’ll be training when we wanted to get married. I was devastated when I first heard it, but I did my best to keep it from him, because I didn’t want him to feel even worse about it. He knows how important having a big day was to me, and he was beating himself up because he didn’t see a way to make that happen.
At first we were just going to have a Justice of the Peace ceremony before he left and then have an amazing celebration when he got back, but after I told my mama that idea she was definitely not excited. She then gave me the idea to just have an intimate wedding, just family and a few friends. I fell in love with the idea immediately, for 2 reasons.
1. I can still have an amazing day with the people I love.
2. It’s really what I wanted all along
This way we can have a quiet, intimate ceremony where we can really enjoy the night. The more I thought about it, a wedding with only 70 people is more of who we are anyway. The only thing I am struggling with is my family. I have 5 sisters and 3 brothers (no, we’re not catholic), and 2 of my brothers are in the Navy. Ben is stationed in Japan, and Tim is in Virginia. I’m really upset that they may not be able to come. I was so excited about our September date because they were both scheduled to be home. I know that a risk of marrying into the Army was that I couldn’t have the ease of scheduling that most brides enjoy, but I never even thought about the possibility that my brothers couldn’t be there.
So know I am looking into the idea of a smaller wedding. How do I go about it? We’re thinking about getting married by the pond by my grandpa’s house, which will be amazing. I’m starting to brainstorm things, but I would love some input from anyone.
We’re going with a butter cream and sage color scheme, with daisies, dahlias, and carnations. I’m getting so excited! I can see a little garden reception with round tables and crisp colors. Yay! Anyone have any ideas/websites they want to share?
