Post # 62
@Gorjuss: I really think you are wasting your time with this guy. Someone who really loves you would not have played such an unkind joke on you for Christmas!
People treat us the way we allow them to treat us. If a guy was telling me stuff about how I need to be a better wife and then he might want to marry me, I would tell him off and leave. Why do you allow him to treat you like that? There is someone out there who would appreciate you and want to marry you without it being a struggle to convince him you’re “good enough”. You already are good enough to marry. It’s this guy’s problem if he can’t see it – not yours. Don’t let him waste your time any longer. Find someone who won’t make you cry on Christmas because of his thoughtless jokes.
Post # 63
I say walk….
I know it is REALLY hard to do, especially when you live with someone and are in your 30’s (the thought being that you already put so much of your valuable time into this relationship) but I have known three women you all have walked and they all ended up better for it, in different ways.
#1 – walked out b/c of no proposal, and Hubby proposed 3 weeks later in the most romantic way ever, they have two kids and are happy
#2 – my sister in-law, walked on her guy after he wouldn commit, he proposed out of the blue 6 months later because he realized what he was missing, but she realized she didnt want him, and now she is married to someone else and just had a baby
#3 – me… I walked (trust me, the ass never changed his mind) but I met my hubby, got engaged in less than a year and would not change a thing
Things will work out for. But you are NOT HAPPY with this guy, so leave, be absolutely misserable for a few weeks or months and they find your happiness!
Post # 64
Good grief. Franky if you stay with this poor excuse for a man you need your head examined – unless you’re into masochism. This man will never marry you – ever. And some day you will be very grateful for that.
Post # 65
Propose to him then. Ask him to marry you. If he says yes, then you’re engaged like you want. If he says no, then you can make an informed decision on what you want to do as far as staying or moving on.
If you want to be with him, being married shouldn’t matter. But if you want to be married and that’s what’s important, there is nothing saying you can’t be the one to propose. If all you’re after is the great story and a ring, I really can’t say anything that will make you feel better.