- 9 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Just wanted to say I married into an Italian family as well, and despite the fact that my Mother-In-Law insisted we had to invite everyone and their dog from DH’s side, we told her tough luck and only invited who we wanted. No pay, no say. We had a small, 50 person wedding and it was perfect.
If I were in your position, I would tell your parents to keep their $20,000 and use your FI’s $20,000 as your entire budget. Scale back the guest list to only immediate family and your closest friends (basically only people you a) know personally, and b) couldn’t imagine not having there). If your FI’s family complains, tough luck. It’s fair on all sides; both your extended families are being “scorned” equally, and you won’t have a huge mismatch of his zillion Italian relatives vs. your comparatively smaller family.
I would also remind your Fiance that this is 2011, and that some traditions are way outdated. If he thinks your family should go into debt for your wedding, he needs a smack upside the head.
Umm, you’re not contributing anything, why should they? It is YOUR wedding and you’re being a little ridiculous wanting it to be $64K. I want a $64K wedding too, so do most other brides. But, the reality is that I do not and will never have that much throw away money laying around.
I would cut the guest list (part of his familys side of course!) I just don’t think thats fair, and especially if you’ve never even met a bunch of them!
Here’s my $0.02… FI’s parents don’t get a say. They’re not contributing. That’s all there is to it.
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