Post # 1
First post here but I am in need of some advice. I got engaged at the end of May and have an absolutely beautiful ring that I am in love with. My fiancé and I had gone ring shopping in February and I was sized at a 4.25. The ring is an actual 4.25 but it feels SO big on me. I could even shake it off in the beginning (I have very small knuckles, which is good for getting the ring on but bad for keeping it on!)
I brought up getting the ring resized but for some reason my finance is very concerned about resizing the ring. He is worried about the potential impact it could have on the integrity of the ring (pulling the prongs loose) and if resizing it would limit any “wiggle room” for the future. (i.e. if I gain weight :))
Due to this, I went and had a sizing bump added about 2 weeks ago. It helped a little, but the ring still feels big- twisting about on my finger and rubbing back and forth. Even when I swell (mornings, and outside in the sun with the 100 degree+temps) the ring is never really tight – I can pull it off without even thinking. It is very uncomfortable and I hate feeling that way about my ring! I am seriously considering getting it resized down to a 4 but don’t want to make a bad decision.
Have any of you been through this before? Any recommendations or advice? Thanks so much!!!
This topic was modified 3 years, 4 months ago by ck2017.
Post # 2
I’d absolutely get it sized down. Check with your jeweller to make sure it wouldn’t affect the things your Fiance is worried about. I would HIGHLY doubt you could pull the prongs loose with sizing down .25! However from what you state, you might actually need it smaller, maybe even 3.75, or a 4 with sizing beads. Either way, just check with a competent jeweller to set your FIs mind at ease.
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
Consult with a jeweler to address your FI’s concerns. I think it will need to be resized.
Post # 4
If it can slip off that easily, there is a HUGE risk you are going to lose it, especially when it is cold or your hand gets wet. Especially as you don’t have larger knuckles to kind of “catch it” before it comes off.
A quarter size down is tiny, it should not result in the prongs being pulled or anything. You can resize it larger in the future if needed, they may need to add some metal depending on what size you need, but it should not be a big deal.
I have resized rings (and re-resized rings) many times. By far more than a 1/4 size! I think the biggest jump I have done was from an 8 to a 5.5 but it was a very plain shank solitaire. They all survived the experience just fine and have had no issues.
I like sizing/speed bumps and tend to use them but I have larger knuckles so need them more so I can get the ring over my knuckle and then let it grip on below. When you have more tapered fingers like yours sound like, resizing the shank to the right size is probably the best way to go.
If you are really concerned about resizing (or your Fiance is), you can probably get the beads built up a bit more, then you can remove them if you ever need a larger size but that depends on you. I find the speed bumps really comfortable, but others don’t like them.
One thing to consider is it may fit snugger with a wedding band depending on the width of the band. If you can, try on wedding bands with it. If it DOES feel more snug with a band, then you might want to just build up the beads, and then when you are wearing a band resize it to what you need (or remove bumps entirely).
Post # 5
I would definitely want to get it sized down. It will be even loser in the winter with the cold weather. I would take it to a good jeweler and ask about your finances concerns. Since you aren’t resizing it drastically i would think the prongs would be fine. There’s probably more chance of you losing it since its lose than what your fiancé is worried about. mine was a bit too big when I got mine and was annoying to wear at times because it was always sliding around. I got it sized down half a size and it’s so much more comfortable now. Also, it sounds like you may need to go down more than just .25 if you can shake it off. Good luck!
Post # 6
I unfortunately forgot my password and just got around to resetting it. I wanted to thank you all for your responses. I went back to the jewler and spoke with them and ended up getting it sized down to a 3.375 (basically between a 3.25 and 3.5). I asked the jewler why I had been sized so differently from the begining and they said that the way the ring is designed causes it to run a big bigger due to how it sits. I am no longer coming home and feeling like I have to take it off and the Fiance is happy that I have stopped talking about it (as well as realizing that he had nothing to fear with the sizing.)
Thanks again to all!!