Post # 1
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Sugar bee
I decided that for my resolution I will make myself a list if all the disappointments I’m holding onto from last year and start fresh. I thought it would feel really good to just let it all out and then let it go.
So here goes…I will let go of:
My anger at my best friend dumping our friendship out of nowhere. This is a toughy, I’m so hurt and confused and feel betrayed. But I guarantee she doesn’t think about it at all while it eats me alive. So f* it. She made her choice. I may never understand but I will not obsess over it anymore because that won’t change anything. I may punch her right in the face if I ever see her again but I can’t continue to think about it all the time, it’s just draining me of energy. She threw away someone who cared for her. I will give up my need for closure, the fact that she went cold and disappeared has to be closure enough. It’s not fair but I don’t need to keep torturing myself thinking about it.
The fact that my wedding cake was not at all what I ordered and I hated it. HATED it! I’m embarrassed that people might think I actually wanted it to look like that on purpose. I cringe seeing it in pictures from our wedding. Well I didn’t let it bother me that night so I can’t do anything about it now.
That my first 2 pregnancies with my husband of our marriage ended in miscarriage. I don’t want any sympathy anymore. I don’t want to be jealous of other pregnant ladies anymore. It’s just what happened, and we will try again until we have a family.
That I turned 35. ’nuff said. Whatever.
That I didn’t get the promotion that I really wanted and know I deserved at work. What’s done is done. I will look for other opportunities there or elsewhere or make the best of my current position.
I will let my ex go. This might sound bad since I’m actually married now, but I’ve been hanging on in my mind to an old ex that I was with for 7 years before my husband. I desperately loved him and he put my heart and head on a constant roller coaster, and even continued his mind games with me up until I got married to another man. Now he’s long gone but I still try and figure out what happened. So no more. He’s gone. I’ve moved on. So be it.
That does feel good to get it all out!
Now…Welcome 2013!!! Be good to me!
Anyone else?
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
I think those are excellent and healthy resolutions for you.
Post # 4
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Busy bee
Those are awesome resolutions.
Here are mine:
1. Start my new job on the 21st and not be afraid. I’m tired of feeling intimindated at work and it’s time that I have more confidence.
2. Treat my husband the way he treats me. We have a great relationship, but lately I’ve been moody and lashing out at him, and I would hate if he did it to me.
3. Be a happier and more upbeat person. Most of the time I’m pretty quiet and keep to myself, but I’m ready to be more outgoing and be perceived as a positive and excited person.
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
@Sunshine09: Yours are great! You are very strong (:
Heres mine:
I will let go of…
My wedding photographers mistake. She deleted pictures of one side of the family I rarley get to see. I was so angry but realized that I have the memories. Yes pictures would have been nice but what’s done is done.
My resentment for my Darling Husband about money. This is the only thing we ever fight about and it has been a strain in our relationship/marriage. This is a new year and when I said for better or worse I meant it. I work more then him and I feel sometimes he isn’t worth my time because he doesn’t make enough money as I do. I’ve learned though that not everything is equal. I love him and will stand by him. Instead of resenting him I am helping him find a better job(:
My feelings towards a girl I barley knew but almost tore my relationship apart. Her and my Darling Husband had a relationship for a couple months. It took me forever to even trust Darling Husband again (This happened two years ago.) I haven’t seen this girl in almost a year. I avoid her like the plague. She now goes to my church were I serve. I decided I will not let her interfer with my relationship with the man upstairs. I saw her for the first time in about a year a couple days ago. I bawled my eyes out and walked away. Floods of emotions came and it was overwhelming but I need to let go and let GOD with her.
I am so ready for 2013 and what it has instore for my family and I.
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
@alaska_99705: I feel that same way about my hubby too sometimes….it’s nice that you can acknowledge it
@figgnewton: Wow you have some big ones too like me. It can be tough to let that stuff go for sure. If it makes you feel any better , I didn’t get half the pictures of family that I wanted because we ended being so rushed. I think that happens a lot. Yes you have the memories. Good for you, it only affects you to hold on to things like that and let it fester inside. You sound very mature. Sucks doesn’t it. 😉
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
This is an excellent idea.
I will let go of:
-how people feel about my relationship with my SO
I have experienced so much negativity because we’re young (21 and 22) and have already planned to get married. I just don’t care what other people think anymore; it’s our decision and it’s made.
-things that are not my problem.
I have a tendancy to micromanage things that I’m no longer involved in/shouldn’t concern myself with, and I stretch myself way too thin even though I often do not get thanked/acknowledged for it.
Really that’s basically it.
It’s also my last semester at university so that should make things easier, lol.
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
I love this idea, I often feel like there are things I am holding on to that are dragging me down. I will let go of…
Anger at a coworker
When my Fiance and I got engaged, I excitedly told my coworkers the big news, one of which is a girl near my age who seemed very excited and wanted to know all the details. I found out the next day that after I left, the excited coworker spun all the details I shared of our engagement in a mean, negative way to some of the other people in my office. I was crushed that someone would take something wonderful and turn it against me. But I need to let go, because at the end of the day it’s about her own insecurities, and isn’t my problem.
I feel better already!
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
@misskittenn: Good ones! Sometimes you have to believe in yourself even when you feel like no one else does and then prove them wrong.
@Little_Nut88: That sounds like toxic immature jealousy for sure. Consider it flattery. 🙂
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