Post # 1
My Darling Husband and I have talked about TTC next spring. I want to be my best self and really be informed before we begin, physically and emotionally. Personally, I will be coming off of homormal BC and I am looking at cleaning out my body before trying to get pregnant
Do you have any great go-to resources that you’d like to share? Any and all resources are welcome!
Post # 2
piper628 : I highly recommend reading “Taking Charge of Your Fertility”. It’s a very informative book and will help you understand your cycles, especially after you come off of BC.
I also recommend charting, although some people have a hard time with temping, but it can really help you get insight into your cycles and to see if you’re even ovulating.
Lastly, go get a check up and make sure everything else is normal. I found out my TSH levels were elevated prior to TTC so I started treating that before we started trying.
Post # 3
I second Taking Charge of Your Fertility.
I also loved Ina May Gaskin’s Guide to Childbirth. I just find it to be a very empowering perspective on pregnancy and childbirth.
Post # 4
feedthebeags : hikingbride :
Thanks for your input! I will put these on my list.
Post # 5
I liked the book “The Impatient Woman’s Guide to Getting Pregnant”- I devoured it. I read it along with “Taking Charge of Your Fertility,” which is a definite must-have.
Post # 6
hafh2016 : taking charge of your fertility for sure, and also the book “it starts with the egg” (or something like that?) is really interesting.
I did a lot of research on this when I was getting ready to start TTC. Posted a thread here that you might find relevant: https://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/what-not-to-do-when-youre-ttc/ I’m pregnant now and while I don’t think it was due to following those recs, certainly it didn’t hurt.
Post # 7
IMO, if you want it to happen as quickly as possible, the best thing you can do is chart your cycle through OPKs (ovulation predictor kits), temping, and monitoring your cervical mucus. This way you can pinpoint when you’re ovulating and time intercourse accordingly. Honestly, timing sex is the only meaningful thing you really can control in this crazy process, so might as well get that part right if you possiby can. As pp said, Taking Charge of Your Fertility is a great resource that explains (in very accessible language) how charting works. The Fertility Friend app is the best app for temping and is also very easy to use, with lots of little tutorials.
Obviously, charting your cycle and timing intercourse won’t guarantee it happens quickly for you, but will improve your odds. Also I’d def recommend coming off of birth control at least three months before you’re ready to start trying, if not more. Many women’s cycles bounce back immediately after they come off the pill, but others can take months to regulate. Oh, and you should start taking a prenatal a couple months before you begin.
Finally, lurk the POAS boards on WB! I did that for a few months before I began TTC and picked up on the lingo, got familiar with how charting works, etc., so when I was ready to dive in, it wasn’t so overwhelming.
Post # 8
Get vaccinated for MMR. That shit wears off and they don’t tell you till you’re pregnant (or seeking fertility treatment) but you can’t get vaccinated once pregnant it’s… A whole thing just do it.
Or get your rubella immunity checked if you want to know if you need it first.
Post # 9
Thanks, everyone! I’ve checked out “Taking Charge of Your Fertility” from the library. I’ll probably buy it, but I just wanted to see it first.
Does anyone have resources of more of the emotional side of pregnancy, motherhood, etc?
Post # 10
piper628 : Can’t really help you there lol. I’m newly pregnant and wishing someone could sedate me til I get out of the first tri (if not the third tri, let’s be real!)…the anxiety is not a joke.
Is there anything in particular you’re worried about?
Post # 11
tiffanybruiser : Not really. I just have the time to focus on myself until we TTC. I think I’ll do a little bit of soul searching to see if there are more specific topics.
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 29th, 2016
piper628 : Congratulations on making the decision on when to TTC! My husband and I will begin trying in July or August. At my annual gyn appointment in January, I addressed most of my questions about conception and what I should be doing now. I say most because I forgot to make a list of all of them, so I forgot a couple.
- Make a list of all your questions for your doctor(s)
- Books like Taking Charge of Your Fertility and What to Expect Before You’re Expecting are good reads and informative
- I got a check up at my doctor and still have to do my bloodwork, and my husband’s appointment is coming up, but we had our bloodwork done a year or so ago for insurance purposes and everything came back normal so I’m hoping that nothing has changed. If so, we have time to sort out any issues.
- We’ve been working out more and eating healthier. I’m not a big drinker of alcohol or cofffee but my husband gave both up for Lent and will be cutting back after.
- I’m currently taking a vitamin for hair/skin/nails and will switch to prenatals when I finish those
- I started a baby fund last year where I put a certian amount of money aside each month to cover expenses, from medical bills to maternity leave
- Be clear on your workplace’s family leave policies and understand how much time you can take off
- Be clear on your insurance costs and how much you will pay for appointments and the birth if you have deductibles you haven’t met
- Consider adding the cost of childcare to your weekly/monthly budget if you need it
- Do any bucket list things now that may be more difficult to do once you have a baby on board. My husband and I are going on a Mediterranean cruise for our 2nd anniversary this year (May) and I’m looking forward to doing a ton of site seing (read: lots of walking) and drinking great wine. We will still travel when we have children, but I don’t know that a trip to Europe will be happening again until they’re old enough to appreciate it.
That’s what I’ve done so far!
Post # 13
As someone who has been pregnant twice, here is what I found out what I wish I’d done prior to becoming pregnant, silly and serious!
Make the fridge spotless (it wasn’t that dirty, but the smell of food was so overwhelming I didn’t open the fridge for three months!)
Finish any painting you’d like to do before getting pregnant (including baby’s room)
Get in good physical shape and build some muscle, since it helps with birth and recovery
Take a comprehensive prenatal with digestible folate for 3-6 months prior to TTC (lowers miscarriage rates)
Start a baby savings account in addition to regular savings.
Think about which beauty and cleaning products you’ll purge from your routine, if applicable. I don’t use many of my regular products after BFP. i.e. retinols, salicylic acid, SLS, chemical sunscreens, or perfumes
Good luck Bee! I still don’t have a baby so I’m working on getting all this down to a “science,” and like @tiffanybruiser said, managing my anxiety and meditating helps enormously.
Post # 14
ladyvictoria : olivejd : Thank you both for these detailed lists! I honestly would not have thought of a few of these (and in the time frame suggested). Also, it just reinforces how much time I have to do these things and I’m glad to be thinking of this now.
I do want to get in shape. I think that’s my most controllable and time appropriate step right now. When the time is right, I will cut down on wine and coffee (not ready to do that until needed). 🙂
@olvejd, I try to get rid of SLS, but shampoo is my one vice. I tried the natural type and it was awful! I do strive for a more natural, chemical-free existence (when I can). Thanks for reminding me of that!
Post # 15
piper628 : I am the same about shampoo and conditioner! My hair is so much better with all the chemicals, haha! I’ve resigned myself to flat and tangly hair during pregnancy unless I find something better out there! The worst part is not being able to use a nice conditioner that actually detangles long hair! I finally caved and bought the Beautycounter hairline… it just ok but not as good as even cheap drugstore hair products. I really liked their Volume spray though. I would probably still force myself to go all natural after a positive pregnancy test!