(Closed) responces to: too young to be married?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
321 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

If you have found the person, you have found the person.

I am not sure what you mean by doing married couple things, having sex, buying a house, children, joint checking accounts, etc. In my opinion most couples are married long before they sign papers. They haven’t saved anything for after marriage.

Marriage is a big deal. Divorce probably more so.
People are grumpy. And my guess is that some people are telling you not to marry based on what they shouldn’t have done.

Learning how to argue is important. Learning how to compromise, maybe more so.

My one question for you would be, if you are so certain you want to marry why would you ask on the board if you are too young?

Legally in most states you can marry at 18. 21 is old enough to drive, vote, buy alcohol, cigarettes, get birth control, sign up for online dating, buy your own car, get a credit card, and old enough to have already graduated college.


 Only you can ultimately decide what is right for you.


Best wishes.

Post # 4
1428 posts
Bumble bee

@nik nu…I didn’t want to get married until I was at least in my mid-twenties. Plus I had never dated anyone up to that point that I loved that much.

That being said, my parents got married at 22 and will celebrate their 37th anniversary this year.

My guy’s parents met in high school, got married at 18, and celebrated their 36th anniversary a few days ago.

I don’t think that it’s about age, I think it’s about a maturity level which different people reach at different times, and when you meet the right person, you just know.

It sounds like you have each found your right person! 🙂

Post # 5
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Congratulations on getting married!  Obviously, you found the right person and you are both ready to make this committment.  Good luck, and hopefully we’ll see you around the hive!

Post # 6
303 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I always said that I would be well over 25 before I even got engaged. I had this whole idealistic timeline of my life planned out. Then I met my Fiance when I was only a few months over 20. We’ll be married by the time I’m 23. Sometimes when it works…it works. I wanted to date someone for years and years, be engaged for a few years, just to "make sure." This was a result of poor relationships and my lack of trust of people…but my Fiance totally shattered that. We got engaged when we had been dating for 4 months and will be married in less than a year from now. 🙂 There’s no right or wrong. I’m so happy that you found your "one" and that you’ve made the decision to be happy with him. Congratulations!

Post # 7
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I hope that the advice you got, in all its variety, reaffirmed your decision to marry your fiance. That is usually the sign of a good decision. Congratulations and best wishes!

Post # 8
8 posts
  • Wedding: September 2010

Despite I’m so sure that I want to get married, I can’t help being bothered by people telling me that I shouldn’t do that. I’m 23, I’ll be 24 on july.(not so young)

Here in Brazil is getting really common to live with your parents by the age of 30.

In my opinion most couples are married long before they sign papers.I totally agree with mizunoheaven. But I don’t want to wake up and realize I’m married. For me is important to make a conscious and public decision.



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