(Closed) Responding to added guests on the RSVP

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Even if you had an inner enveope this +1 and +2 situation would have likely happened.

Call your friends and family immeditely.

“Hi Sue, thank you for sending maiking back your RSVP, but unfortunately there was a misunderstanding. The invitation was just for you (and Jim). Your RSVP included an additional person or persones. (Do not name them/ do not ask who they are.) FI and I cannot acaccomodate these guests you have invited to our wedding. I understand if this changes your ability to attend, so  please let me know if just you (and Jim) are still coming by original RSVP date.” 

Post # 3
45627 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

There must have been a misunderstanding. We are unable to accomodate any extra guests at the wedding. If this means you are unable to attend, we will miss you.”

Post # 5
4778 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

PinkerBelle:   I wrote names on the inner envelope and we still have guests inviting guests.  As PPs have said, simply tell the invited guest that you cannot accomodate extra guests.  Don’t give a reason.  

Post # 6
858 posts
Busy bee

I agree…. i had names addressed and people still had additional rsvp’s. I would say what 

julies1949:  said above. Simple and sweet!

Post # 7
145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We even MADE RSVP cards with everyones individual name on with a yes no tick box…still happened. Stand your ground and you will be fine.


We also had a tick box for “vegetarian” (i couldn’t be dealing with the whole “let me know any dietry requirements” thing), and my most favourite response was someone saying “not vegetarian but please no bell peppers” 

Post # 8
4041 posts
Honey bee

lozzle22:  Funny. I always order the vegetarian entry, but peppers always make me sick. You wouldn’t want me on the dance floor, if peppers were in my meal.


Post # 9
145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

PABride:  Haha! I think it was just the specific-ness that made me laugh 😛 Almost wanted to get stuffed bell peppers just for fun XD I didn’t… I don’t even remember what the meat option was… I’m a veggie myself and we had vegetarian moussaka for the veggie main!

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