(Closed) Response after sending save the dates

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

From the majority of your guest very little reaction. A few people texted/fb when they got it, we and our parents asked around and it seemed like everyone got them so we weren’t worried.

Post # 18
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6240 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

I got a few texts from friends just because they thought my Save-The-Date Cards were so awesome, but I think that this is something peopel just don’t think they need to respond to (and they’re right!). I’m sure they reacted to it when they got it in the mail, and put it somewhere safe, but just didn’t think to contact you about it since it’s more of an FYI than anything.

Post # 19
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11744 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

 I rarely tell people when I get their Save-The-Date Cards, so I wouldn’t expect anyone to tell me when they got mine.  I definitely had a few people mention it to me, but nothing crazy. It’s not a big deal – they got them! If they didn’t, they’ll be returned to sender.

I also never go on someone’s wedding website.

Post # 20
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1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I really think your responses, or lack thereof is normal.  Only a few of our immediate family members and a few friends mentioned ours.  It’s as you said we fret over them and baby them and make changes and spend weeks looking at them so we somehow expect everyone else to love them as much as we do, however the sad truth is that not many people will.  I found that with our epics and even our wedding pics.  Minus the few interested friends/coworkers and immediate family not many others share in your excitement over them.  And that’s fine bc its your day!  I love, love, love our wedding pics and would show them to any and every one but most people just aren’t that into it.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

ive wondered about this too.. we havent sent them out yet but it is strange. there is no expectation for a response yet it seems weird to hear nothing!

I am sure everyone got them okay though 🙂 the invitations are what count right?

Post # 22
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1748 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think I received a response over time- more so than right after I sent them. Like, when we were together with family around the holidays people would mention them and comment on how much they loved them. People are busy, don’t be offended if you don’t receive an immediate response.

Post # 23
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11231 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

We got several comments, but not that many. Most of the responses were questions about the wedding that could have been answered had the person gone to the website linked on the STD that I spent lots of time designing. ARGH.

I was mostly expecting more comments because I designed our Save-The-Date Cards myself, but then I realized that not a lot of people knew that.

Post # 24
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13707 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Most people don’t react to Save-The-Date Cards, since they’re just announcements of an impending invitation.  Don’t stress about it!

Post # 25
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3829 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Why would i need to react to a STD? I put the date in my calender and wait for the formal invite……

Post # 26
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561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

no one looked at our website after std’s went out (I also watched the counter) our friends and even our parents even kept asking, ok when is it? -really? i worked so hard to get the darned website up- and running and adequately informative. but-what are you going to do 🙂 lol.

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@classyashley:  I didn’t send them out. but a friend of mine did. I didn’t respond, I didn’t think we were supposed to/needed to, because I can’t really say anything, other then looking forward to the invite?

Post # 28
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8917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I’ve never responded to a STD. If I happen to see the bride or groom, I’ll mention that I received it, but otherwise it goes on the fridge until the invitation arrives. 

Post # 29
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945 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We sent ours out last Thursday and started receiving responses by Friday (from people in our city) that they had received it. Today, I started receiving texts from friends in other parts of the country that they have received ours. None have been “returned to sender” as of yet.

 

Post # 30
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384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I have the same situation. I sent out the save the dates with a link to our website. I’ve had responses from 3 maybe 4 people saying they got the magnet and the only ppl who have visited and/or signed my guestbook is my parents. It makes me disapointed but I guess I have to keep in mind that it’s my wedding and I’m way more excited than my guests.

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