(Closed) Response card help!

posted 6 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
5479 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

(place & address)

M__I’d write their names here_

______ Accepts with pleasure

______ Declines with regret

Number of guests attending: _____of__2__


I copied what you put & added to it.  I think it’s rude of that person to pass judgement on you for trying to stay within the confines of your budget and venue capacity.  Shame on him.

I think if you are able to pre-fill out the names of the people invited, then indicate how many seats at the end of the number of guests attending that should clear any confusion.  Sorry you had to deal with him… doesn’t he think it would be even more rude to invite more people than your venue can hold then have to go and call people and “un”invite them?!!

Post # 5
569 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

That guy sounds kind of sounds like a jerk. 

On my response cards, I had, “We have reserved ___ seats in your honour”, and then took it even further by also putting, “___ of ___ attending”, where I filled out the second number, to reinforce that the guests had a certain # of seats, and that’s it. I don’t think it’s rude (and didn’t hear anything through the grapevine about someone getting their panties in a bunch over the wording), but it also didn’t seem to be very effective in my case. Half of my family is Hispanic, and they tend to think the more the merrier when it comes to weddings (I had a cousin ask if she could bring one of her cousins from her other side of the family who I’m not related to and have never met. I also had a cousin, whose entire family was invited, show up with their daughter’s 12 year old friend, who I also have never met. WTF?). I also had a few people cross out the # I had written and write in the # they actually wanted to bring. Sigh.

I guess in your case, I’d just be very specific about the names you put on your inner envelope. If anyone does RSVP with a guest you didn’t invite, you’ll have to call them and explain that your venue has space limitations, and you can’t accomodate their guest. 

Post # 6
7904 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Technically, he’s right. You are expressing to your guest that you don’t think he/she is smart enough to understand the envelope. However, many guests are either too stupid to understand that envelope or too rude to care that you clearly only invited the adults or a single person alone, so this is how you hedge against that.

I will say that we invited 117 people to our wedding, and NOT ONE SINGLE PERSON tried to respond for someone not listed on the envelope.

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