(Closed) Response Card Question

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

You fill it in. “We” meaning you and Fiance have reserved seats in “your” meaning your guests honor. The sentence no longer makes sense if your guest fills it in.

Post # 4
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6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

There is no right or wrong way!

However, YOU filling out the number will help to prevent guests from bringing unwanted people to your wedding. For example, you invite 2 and the couple writes in 6.

Now this can still happen if you write in the number but it is more clear for your guests who is invited.

Post # 6
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622 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Vandiver Inn

Lioness, you don’t have another place for them to designate the actual number coming? Like in meal choice or on the yes/no lines?

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

We filled in that number because we knew that if we left it open for guests to fill in they would put a different number than what we had wanted. Some people didnt get it at first, but overall I think it worked really well

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Ya, if the couple fills in 2 or however many people, and only one person can make it to the wedding, where do they let you know that only one person will be going?

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

You would write and fill in “We’ve reserved ____ seats in your honour”

If you wanted you could then have another line below that say

“____ will be attending” or you have to specify a meal choice, or a difference between adults and children you could leave blanks for that as well.

I didn’t need to know a meal choice, but my venue did require we provide the NAME of every guest for entry to the park so here’s a pic of my reply cards.  I ended up changing the attending “in person” or “in spirit” thing because my mom thought it meant dead people or something… and I didn’t want to cause confusion.  The final draft just said “accept” “decline”

ETA I didn’t do the “reseved ___ seats in your honour” and had no issue with additional uninvited guests that weren’t named on the envelope.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

 I don’t mean to hiijack, but how do meal choices go? I will be having chicken, beef or seafood. Would I print that on the card, and then they circle their choice?

Post # 12
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Busy bee

Instead of ____ will be attending, some write ____of _(#)__ will attend. Hopefully that drives the point home. 🙂

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

ahhh I didn’t see that pic before I was typing. I swear, I’m not as dumb as I seem lol!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Bostonsmom: I numbered the options and had a few blank lines for the guest to write their name and indicate their choice.

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Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Oh my goodness, I’m starting to think there is alot I don’t know about wedding planning. I actually have a wedding planner. The only thing that is allll meee are the invitations and I know I don’t have to have them out until july, but it will probably take me that long to figure out how to do them.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

does your RSVP have a M __________________ or a Name(s) ______________________ line?  If so, that’s where the guest will let you know who’s coming.  For example, you could put we’ve reserved (2) seats in your honor, and your guest, who’s decided to come stag would just write Jane Doe in the M or Name line, and wouldn’t write in their date who’s not coming.

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