Post # 1
I am putting together my invitations and getting them ready to be sent out on monday, but have a few questions. Say one invitation is addressed to John Smith & Guest… then the respose card states ______ of ______ will be attending. Should i fill in the second _____ with 2, or leave it to them to fill in?
MY second question is if John Smith RSVPS for 2, and is planning in bringing a guest we dont know, nor do we know thier name, what goes on their escort card?
Post # 3
@mattsgirl813: The Etiquette experts (LOL) will give you the techical answer, but I would fill in the “2”. We read too many stories here about guests adding others because they either were never educated in matters of etiquette, or choose to ignore it.
If John Smith responds that he plans to bring a guest, you will need to contact him before the wedding to obtain the name of his guest for the escort card.
Post # 4
That is exactly what i figured but just wanted to make sure i wasnt making some huge mistake 🙂
Post # 5
1. address the inner envelope to John Smith and Guest (it is best to try to find out the name of the person he is planning on bringing). The names on the inner envelope should clearly indicate to the guest whether a plus one is allowed
2. Create one line that says _____ accepts with pleasure (the dash will serve as a place for the guest to place an X)
3. create one line that says ___ declines with regret
4. Create a line at the very bottom of the card for the person to print their name and name of the guest if they are bringing someone
I would create a spreadsheet with the name of the guests. Correspond each guest to a number. On the back of the response card write that number in pencil. That way if you get back response cards with no guests name (s) you will know who it belongs to.
Post # 6
Plus as a guest, if I was unsure about whether I got a +1, I would have appreciated the clarity. 🙂
Post # 7
Absolutely put __ of 2. Just so there is no confusion.
Also, on the top of the invitation, above everything else put: M_____________________
And he will fill out his name, and he SHOULD be putting his guests name as well so you know.
Post # 8
I would forgo that first dash altogether. We had the ___ of _x_ attending, and so many people skipped filling it out that I wondered why I bothered.
We didn’t do inner envelopes because that’s kind of wasteful, imo. We also didn’t give anyone a blanket plus one, so there’s that, but if you are allowing “and guest” for your guests, I would try to ask for the name from the person when you receive the RSVP, or you can put “John Smith’s guest” on the escort cards.
Post # 9
This is exactly what we did for ours and I think it worked pretty well. I would definitely fill in the second blank. That way there is no confusion as to how many people are invited (such as dates, kids, etc). We only had one person cross the number out and put an extra person in lol (had to make an akward phone call). Like vorpalette said, just be prepared for a ton of people to not even fill in the first blank. I think only half actually filled it in correctly. The other half just put a check or didn’t even fill it out. But my main objective was to let people know how many were in their party, especially since we had an adults only reception.