(Closed) Response to RSVP

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How do I respond to her text?
    Just ignore her and enjoy the party! : (25 votes)
    43 %
    Text: "Oh grow up for heaven's sake" : (4 votes)
    7 %
    Text: "You will be missed, I'm sorry you two can't work out your differences." : (27 votes)
    47 %
    Tell her that Ellen cancelled, set up a jello wrestling ring and let them duke it out. : (2 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    986 posts
    Busy bee

    Ignore. Not worth the drama, she’ll just miss out!

    Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    Ignore it… not your problem!

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    If she’s a close friend then just be honest and tell her you don’t deal well with drama and don’t want to be caught in the middle. So she can be mature about it and come to your party or be childish and stay home. 

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    For all the appeal of Jell-O wrestling…

    Just leave it alone and let her make her own decisions. Tell her you’ll miss her and hope she’ll change her mind, and then move on to other things. 

    Post # 7
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Wow, it she can’t grow up and deal for a night for the sake of her friend, she’s being a brat.  But there’s nothing you can do.  Tell her you’ll miss her, and that maybe you can get together at another point soon.  Then drop it.

    Post # 9
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Well she is being really immature.

    I wouldn’t ignore her but I would be the bigger person and send something like “You will be missed, I’m sorry you two can’t work out your differences.”

    Post # 10
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    8472 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Simply say OK and call it a day.

    Post # 11
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    13015 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @metalbride:  I don’t think you’re wrong to be hurt, but I think you just need to try to put it aside and not dwell on it, because she’s being childish and immature. 

    Post # 12
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    2104 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I’d just say “Okay, you’ll be missed.” and leave it at that.

    Post # 13
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    704 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I agree with PPs – tell her, “sorry you can’t make it” and move on. It’s not wrong for you to feel hurt about her attitude, that’s natural. But she has to understand she can’t dictate your social life. She can grow up and be a part of it, or she can isolate herself.

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    “Haven’t received her RSVP yet but I’ll miss having you here!”

    Post # 15
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    3092 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Mrs.KMM:  YEP!

    I like to give people the benefit of the doubt so I’d also throw in, “If you change your mind please let me know 🙂

    Post # 16
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    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    That’s really crappy of Jane to put you in that position.  I can understand if it was an intimate lunch date with a handful of people – but this is a big party!

    In any case, I wouldn’t feed the drama.  I’d just say something like:

    “Ellen is invited, but I don’t know if she’s coming or not, at this point.  I’d really miss you, if you declined and want you to be there!  If she RSVP’s a no, I’ll let you know… but I hope you’ll change your mind and attend regardless.”

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