(Closed) Responses like “Wow, you didn’t waste any time!” and “You did [x[ already!?”

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Post # 17
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

the only ppl who make such comments are those who just dont know what it takes to plan a wedding these days… 

Post # 18
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

This is so frustrating! Although most of the comments come from people who have never planned or been close to the planning of a wedding a few of them come from my vendors. Is it really weird to be looking a stylists or officiants 10 months out? Sure I could put it off but if I have time to work on it now and I’m giving you business why would you comment?

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My mother made fun of me when I wanted to go dress shopping 10 months out. I just told her it needed to be done and dragged her out with me. She knocked it off after a while. 😉

Also, howdy neighbor!

Post # 20
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Bumble bee

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@bells 100% agree…

I’ve gotten to the point where I tell people nothing. Make them think it’s not even on my mind, that way the conversation stops altogether. Luckily, I have Weddingbee for all my wedding talk.

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Yeah. FH and I have a 3-year engagement, so I take a ton of shit from people about planning early. But I’m a college senior, graduating in May, so waiting until 6 months out isn’t really an option–I’ll be looking for a job, etc. Better to get it out of the way!

Post # 22
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Busy bee

For those of you who got comments about picking out a dress, I just went into a bridal salon that told me it would take FIVE MONTHS to get my dress in. Excuse me if that seems a little ridiculous but regardless – I am glad I went early! I am WAY too much of a control freak to let something like that come in at the last minute…plus it was nice verification to have the saleslady tell me I was coming in at exactly the right time 😉

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

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@fitzly thast what they told me too “you are ordering at the perfect time” they also told me my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses would take 15 weeks. they came back in less than  4. they said my dress would take 3 months..still waiting on that one

Post # 24
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I was photographing my friend’s wedding, and during portraits, total strangers were walking by yelling “You’re too young to get married!!”. It made me so angry that I started yelling back “They’ve been together 10 YEARS, and she has a PHD!!”

Idiots.

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I hate these comments. I made a FB update the other day about finding “thee” dress and my Mom quickly text messaged me “why are you getting a dress this early?!” =/ Umm…Ive actually felt like I’m running behind compared to other people. My wedding is only 9 months away! If it takes 5 – 6 months to come in, that’ll leave just enough time for alterations, cleaning, etc. Gah. So clueless, she is sometimes!

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Gardens of the World

Ooh i hate those comments! We will have had an 11 month engagement by the time January rolls around, and in the beginning people were always saying “oh you have booked that already? Do you really need to do that now? You have plenty of time!” Like a couple of people on this thread have mentioned, I really dont think most people know how long it can take to plan a wedding.

The most annoying (or funny, depending on how you look at it) thing is that now that we have under four months to go the same people are saying “oh! not much time! why havent you done this yet?!” *sigh* I dont think we can win.

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

i think the worst part of my planning is FI’s daughter. she thinks her opinion of our wedding stuff is what counts and as much as i tryu to be patient she tells me everything i do is stupid and ugly. i almost prefer the other comments more than hers. they all sting either way

Post # 28
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

i am newly engaged (6 weeks) and have heard everything that you and others have heard. i finally figured out that EVERYONE has an opinion about EVERY aspect of the planning and etc. i think i have finally gotten to a happy place and realized that no matter what, when, how i do things…people will have something to say.

maybe you can try to say to yourself (in the back of your mind)…”Opinions are like ***holes, everyone has one and they usually stink”. it makes me laugh everytime i say it to myself and helps me to remember to do what i want.

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I found that people liked to make comments no matter what, and at least in my experience, it was usually people I didn’t know well who felt the need to comment. Our engagement was a year and a half, and people (that didn’t know us well) commented behind our back about how it was ridiculous we were having such a long engagement.

I also had a few people tell me I was too young to get married, and they asked me why I felt the need to get married now. Apparently at 27 I look like I’m 21 (that’s what I was told), but even if I were 21 it’s none of their business!

Do your best just to ignore comments and laugh it off. Some people just don’t know when to be quiet!

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I had people say this too…and I let it get to me and so I waited.  With a little over 2 months to go, I can say this: do not wait.  Do things when YOU want to do them because when it gets close to your wedding, you will have a million of things to worry about and you will not want to be freaking out about some random DIY project or shopping trip.  

Also, as you guys know, a year is not that long in the wedding world.  Trust me, when it gets to crunch time, all those people who told you you had all the time in the world will now be asking why you left it to the last minute.  

Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

My fiance and I are having a 7 month engagement. I get both sides of the spectrum. I have people saying “You’ve already picked out *whatever*???” and other people saying “I can’t believe you haven’t done *whatever* yet! You need to get moving!” Both comments are annoying. Just let me plan my wedding on my own time please 🙂

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