(Closed) Responses like “Wow, you didn’t waste any time!” and “You did [x[ already!?”

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 47
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I had an “idea stealer” (you can find her in one of my emotional posts), so I’ve started telling everyone I’m totally done with planning.

And to make you feel better…at over a year out I had:

-a ring, a date, reception/ceremony venues, meeting with the priest, a photographer, a theme, Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses/shoes, and numerous DIY supplies already purchased.  My dress was purchased 11 months out.  If I had to start planning 8 months out, I think I would have been stressed beyond belief!

Don’t listen to others.  Everyone has their own way of doing things, and whether you had everything planned 8 months out or 8 weeks out, in April you’ll be married!

Post # 48
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2011

we’re having a 6 month engagement, and yes, I’ve gotten TONS of comments about “rushing” things etc. But all from people who aren’t married or engaged. All my married or engaged friends just think we’re crazy for planning a wedding in 6 mos.
I bought the dress about 2 wks after we got engaged, but it’s custom made and I HAD to order it then to get it on time for the wedding. I am also finishing up my masters and know that this spring semester will be insane doing student teaching and preping for my oral exam, so I got a LOT done right away while I was still off for the summer. 

there is

Post # 49
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ugh.  So annoying.  We got engaged in February and we’re getting married a month from today (Yay!) and within a week of the engagement I had my venue, photographer, and florist.  I am a hyper-planner, but I will be loving myself the week before our wedding when everything is done while the procrastinators can stay up all night, stressing about last minute projects.  🙂

Post # 50
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987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

people truly are idiots at the time of a wedding.  It does hurt and can be tiring.  I remember people really hurting me too!

The best advice I can give you is to really concentrate on how special this is for you and your fiance.  Marriage is wonderful.  Enjoy this time to prepare and don’t let anyone take it away forem you.  It’s normal to get hurt, but try to accept it and move on.  Best wishes hun 🙂

Post # 51
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I have a <1 year enagement with the months leading up to wedding with me being overseas.  So I started immediately after getting engaged and got all the big stuff done.  I’m keeping everything else really simple because I don’t want to end up being defined by wedding planning.  I also refuse for this wedding to be so stressful that I can’t enjoy being engaged and getting married.  Whenever someone said anything though, I had a great reason to have hit the ground running.  If that’s what you need to do to be HAPPY working on your wedding, then do it!

Post # 52
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh poor thing! Please please try not to let those comments bother you!

My husband and I always joke that we do EVERYTHING fast (got engaged after 5 months and pregnant after being married 1 month). We CONSTANTLY get comments like “you two never waste anytime” and now I just smile and say “Nope, we don’t”.

enjoy your planning time! It goes by quickly!

Post # 53
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439 posts
Helper bee

I hear it a lot from my mom, but for the opposite reason.  Honestly, I’m not surprised though; we have a two year engagement.  

My sister and Brother-In-Law did things exactly opposite of what Fiance and I are doing.  They knew each other from HS, started dating, and were engaged on their 1st dating anniversary, were married less than a year later, and now expecting their first child (who will be born after they’ve been married for 1.5 years).

Fiance and I dated for 4.5 years, we’re having a 2 year engagement, we don’t plan on having kids.

I already purchased my wedding invites, made several projects, and have ordered several things.  All I hear is “You have 2 years!  Why are you rushing so much?”  Well, frankly, we don’t have a lot of money, so I have to find good sales when I can.  If it weren’t two years out, I wouldn’t have time to shop around and get lucky on prices.  So what if I bought my invites two years in advance.  I got 90 of them for $12.

Post # 54
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

there is nothing wrong with being prepared…i started planning 2 years out…it made sense to us so we didn’t go in debt.

Post # 55
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48 posts
Newbee

I was engaged for six months, and where I come from that is a fairly long engagement. So we didn’t so much get, “You’ve done all that already?!” nearly as much as we got, “Why so long an engagement?” 🙂

Post # 56
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677 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

When I mentioned to someone that I already had my save the dates & invites figured out they said, "Gosh, are you going to be one of those Bridezilla types?". I’m quite proud of myself for not snapping their head off. Don’t let it get to you.

I’m about a year out and I have:

– Venue reserved
– Celebrant secured
– Save the dates, invites & programs planned, proofed and mocked up
– Completed supply list made for all paper goods
– Colors & theme chosen
– Bridesmaid & groomsmen wardrobe decided on
– Florist chosen
– Bar decisions made
– Readers (and readings) chosen
– Vows decided
– Dress chosen, 1/2 of supplies purchased, seamstress secured
– Website started

The next steps? Finalize our food, find shoes and figure out centerpieces!

Post # 57
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yeah, I had the reception venue laugh in my face when I tried to book it a year in advance. We’re having it in the reception hall of FI’s dad’s Elk club. “Haha, honey, we ain’t even got our tweeenty-eeeleven calendar yet.” Sheesh. Sorry EVERY wedding magazine, website, book, pamphlet, brochure, etc. says “BOOK YOUR VENUE AND CHURCH ONE YEAR IN ADVANCE.” I’m going to be beating some a$$ if I come back in March like she suggested (6 months out) and someone has my date.

I started looking at dresses less than a month after we got engaged. It was just for fun, I knew I wanted to share that moment with my mom and with his mom. After all, it never hurts to go dress shopping more than once, right?

We’re eleven months out at this point and I’m still just looking at wedding magazines and idea-gathering. Probably after the holidays and the first of the year I’ll start getting a little more concrete.

My family doesn’t have anything nice to say about the wedding (except for my parents and brother) they’re just pissy because it’s not in their backyard. Honestly, I’m only inviting my parents, grandparents, and my bro. So they’ll never get over b!tching about the wedding being so far away to be able to b!tch about if I’m doing something too fast or too slow.

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