Post # 1
did anyone else get push back about following up about response cards.
Our due date was March 23 – a little early because i knew people would forget to send them back. So on friday i started to follow up with those whose cards i didnt get back.
my boss – i asked him and he was angry and said i told you i was coming (which was in december). i was like well i didnt get the respond card back and i was checking. he said he didnt see a response card, but then was like oh there was one. he said yes i am coming and my wife isnt – i dont want her to (she is prenant – so i understood). he wasnt very nice about it. honestly i wish i couldtell him dont bother.
then my cousin – i called him since he lives in cali, and im in chicago. he was like what day is the wedding. i was like april 27. he said yes ill come. i asked him for his dish choice and asked if he would like to check the airlines first. he said he was going to fly standby.
then there were 3 people on my fiance’s side. i dont know them and i dont have a way to contact them. so i asked his mom to see if she could find out – because they may have lost the cards or just forgot. my fiance yelled at me and told me they will come. but i dont have their food choices and its a plated dinner (so if they dont tell me – i cant have food for them)
i just dont understand why its so hard for people to tell me. i know its not important to them but it is to me. im kinda sad today.
Post # 3
@jen 42713: Geez…some people! LOL I can’t for the life of me understand how we as brides can make the RSVP process any easier for people. We address the return envelope, put a stamp on it and all we ask is that they write their names and choose their meal! Or check the decline box and mail it back! I will assume whoever doesn’t reply will not be in attendance. Good Luck!
Post # 4
@jen 42713: not sure why people are in such a mood about it. You are just wanting people to get the food they prefer which is a considerate thing to do. Can you choose for them? Let the caterers work it out for the non responders ?
hug for feeling sad
Post # 5
@Jen-in-GA: no because im not sure what people like to eat … its a plated meal – meaning you get a choice of food in advanced and cant change it. its also at the zoo – and they go buy the food special for the day – its not a normal banquet hall or cater that just has the food at hand. thank you for the hug.
Post # 6
I feel for you… tracking down RSVPs and the whole Reply Process in general sucks. It really is the most difficult part of Wedding Planning.
Sounds like your Boss is coming to the Wedding more out of “obligation” than anything else (sorry hon… but I didn’t read any joy in his reply)
Which is WHY according to Etiquette there is no need to Invite anyone ever from the Office… so as to keep work life seperate from home life… too bad you didn’t know that ahead of time (too late now tho)
As for Cousin… you need to call him up and tell him you NEED A YES OR NO not a maybe. “Maybe” won’t feed him.
For Fiance’s side of the family… follow up with MOG. She must know how to contact these people. If they are YESes and you still can’t get a food choice, just “wing it”. I’d just order them whatever is the most popular. Chances are anyhow that if they aren’t to their liking day off that your Caterer will have prepared a few extra of the other plate and will make the required switch.
Hang in there… it’ll soon be over
(( HUGS ))