- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Hello dear Bees,
My Minnesota wedding is a long ways away, but while I’m in the middle of a less busy summer, I’m trying to put together some vague idea of the event we will have to start actively planning in a year… So here goes my pile of weird ideas and points of confusion:
First of all, we wanted a small wedding. Like super small – we actually wanted a Destination Wedding with no one but parents, except we didn’t want to offend anyone. So it was decided that a regular ceremony and reception would be best. We put together a list of family and close friends that immediately came to mind, gave everyone +1 where it made sense (all friends and adult family members who are not attending as a couple), and ended up with 70 people already. Also I have a few more people I would invite immediately, but am not putting on the list yet since my life will be very different in 2 years and we may not be in touch any more. So the list is not quite as brief as I wanted.
We still want to do a restaurant reception, because more people from the list would probably appreciate a delicious meal in a well-decorated space than a big dance floor and a DJ. We’re on a very tight budget, because we just bought a house and we’re planning on paying for everything ourselves, so a nice enough reception space with great catering and other necessarily rentals is probably outside our budget, but a restaurant might fit. We found a restaurant we loooooove that has a private space to accommodate 80 – yikes that’s tight… But the food is always amazing and not everyone RSVPs yes, right??
So here’s the big question for brides who have done a larger reception at a restaurant without renting out the whole place: How have they handled liquor for your group? Is it still a regular bar with a regular drinks menu, have they given you a reasonable price for open bar, or something in between? We don’t want our guests to have to pay for their full-priced drinks, so that would be a deal-breaker, because we also can’t pay for everyone’s drinks at this place at full price.
Also, since less than half of the guests would probably have any interest in dancing, we’re thinking we will have the official reception end after dinner at the restaurant, give a couple hours for socializing, and then have a limo bring us and whoever else is interested to a fun club/bar in downtown Minneapolis for the rowdy dancing portion. Is there a terrible side to this idea that hasn’t crossed my mind yet? Would it be offensive to anyone? I haven’t heard of anything like this before…
I’m sorry this is sooo convoluted and disorganized so far, it basically perfectly reflects the state of my brain. ANY input, positive or negative, is appreciated.