- 5 years ago
Hi bees! I am hoping to get some advice what to put on my resume and how to explain gaps in employment. I had a stable job history until I had my first daughter and decided to stay home, ten years ago. I was a Stay-At-Home Mom for five years. After my ex-h and I separated, I returned to the workforce in the same field I’ve been in. That job (I’ll call it Job #1) I held for one year but HATED ~ it was soooo stressful. I quit and about six months later I got a new job with Job #2. This was at a utility company and paid very well. I loved my job and my schedule ~ I made good money working 30 hrs a week and had set hours, no nights/weekends which was important since I was a single parent. After a year and a half the company eliminated part-time positons and my only choice to keep my job was to go full time, with weekly rotating schedules and mandatory o/t every week (the o/t hours was often only 24 hours notice). It made childcare impossible for me, as my kids (2 by then) were young and I had no one to watch them in the evenings. I quit that job and had another job gap ~ I relocated to a different city, trying to find work but ended up moving back six months later b/c of a problem with the person I had rented my house out to. I went back to Job #1 because they were the only company hiring that paid well and I needed something ASAP.
So… back at Job #1 I was even more miserable than I was the first time working for them ~ they had changed management and getting yelled at everyday and working under extreme pressure took its toll on me. I really wanted to mentally just deal wtih it but I started getting very sick b/c of the stress. I lost 20 lbs and was unable to sleep at night. I started having attendance issues, talked to HR and brought in a dr’s note about my health condition (I have very bad IBS, aggravated by stress) but they would not work with me and I ended up quitting, 5 months after being rehired. By this time I was with Darling Husband and he supported me in going back to being a Stay-At-Home Mom, which has been my status for the past year. I’ve done babysitting for extra money during that time and I just recently went back to work p/t for the holidays, working retail, not my career field and making half what I’ve made before.
I really want to go back to work making better money in the new year and have a ‘career’ again but I feel like I’ve screwed myself with my job instability and I don’t know how to explain these gaps in employment & answer my reason for leaving them. Here’s the rundown: a gap for 5 years after 1st daughter was born, worked 1 yr at Job #1, gap 6 months, worked Job #2 for 1 1/2 years, gap 6 months, went back to Job #1 for 5 months, gap/SAHM for one year and now working at Job#3/different field part-time.
Aside from the gaps I also have to explain why I left Job #1 twice, leaving the 2nd time after only 5 months ~ I don’t even know if I should put that on my resume anymore because I think it makes me look even worse! I know I’ve screwed up but I am a good employee and I’ve always excelled at work. My goal for the new year is to go back to work full-time, either in my old field or even go back to school and start over in a new career. I just don’t know what to do with my resume! Please help and tell me this isn’t hopeless; any advice appreciated! 🙂