(Closed) Rethinking my dress, ugh!

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
20 posts

If you fell in love with the dress, you fell in love with it for a reason. Do not let other people sway your opinion. Also, Simple and plain is timeless! My dress is very simple. A very sparkly dress will quickly get outdated, while a simple one will always remain in fashion.

Post # 3
84 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Bernardus Lodge and Spa, Carmel Valley, CA

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FutureWifey2016:  What does your dress look like?  Do you have pics?  At this point if you are going to get another dress you need to act quick if you’re ordering or get a sample.  Do you think you could have your dress customized at all to make it into what you want?  I bought a dress and had dress regret due to it being a satin ballgown and it didn’t feel right.  Before giving in and buying another I brought it to a reputable seamstress who is turning it into something amazing that I never would have imagined this dress could be.  You have lots of options but I suggest you act fast. 

Post # 4
739 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Simple can be so beautiful and classy. I agree with PP, its timeless! If you feel differently though – not other people – you can always alter it some way or add bling. Good luck.

Post # 5
381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I would stop showing it to people, honestly. The way a dress looks in a picture is totally different than it will look on you, tailored to you, and fully styled, the way it will be on your wedding day. Simple is classic and classy and may suit your personal style better (I know it would mine). Finally, while I understand wanting to please your FI’s family, for something like this, it’s better to pick something that you love and feel beautiful in. 

Post # 6
2779 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

That’s tough…I understand wanting to impress your inlaws..and all your guests to be honest, but at the same time it’s all about how you feel. Have you tried looking for a new dress? Maybe go shopping a few times & see if there’s even a dress out there that you like better. You’ll know if your dress is meant to be the one or not.

Post # 7
2166 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery

I also have purchased a simple dress and I know it’s going to look classy and timeless. Accessorize it with some fancy stuff (I got a jeweled belt, sparkly shoes and a cathedral length veil, for instance). It may not be as flashy as others, but if you feel beautiful, you will look beautiful (And flashy is overrated.) 

Also +1000 to the PP who said to stop showing pics of your dress to people. It will have such an impact when you’re done up on the day-of, way more than a salon pic on your phone.

Post # 8
440 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I had a similar experience in that my parents both didn’t think much of my dress. In fact, the first time I showed my dad he said it was ‘nice, not beautiful, but nice’.  Ha!  I loved it from the minute I put it on and I never waivered.  I have no regrets in keeping it.  So if you love it, don’t let others bring you down!  I even had my seamstress offer to add a shiny belt.  Nope, I’m good, I love my plain dress.  

Post # 9
316 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Stop showing people. It’s YOUR wedding dress not theirs. If they don’t like it, screw them but it’s going to look completely different on you when you’re all dressed up to the 9s on your wedding day. 

Post # 10
1569 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

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FutureWifey2016:  I went back to your old posts, and your dress is beautiful! It may not have a ton of bling, but it is certainly not plain jane.


I say continue with this dress, and focus now on the styling. Pick out jewelry and hairstyles that will make you feel so fabulous that any negative comments will make you laugh at how ridiculous they are ( they would be ridiculous because your dress is amazing!).

Post # 11
1305 posts
Bumble bee

So I wore a really simple dress.  It’s one of the things I regret LEAST about my wedding.  I don’t know if people “spoke poorly” of it (if your family does, they are crap.  Sorry. It’s a freaking dress), but I do know that the fact that I chose a simple dress reflected my personality and allowed me to not stress about such a small detail.  Yes, my dress was a small detail of my wedding.  I wanted to keep it that way.  I didn’t want to go through fittings, the nerves of whether or not something will go wrong, what people will think, topping someone else, etc etc.

It photographed BEAUTIFUL (in my opinion!) and is timeless, because it was simple.

If you love a simple gown, go with it.  IMO, too many people these days focus on the dress.

Also if you are showing people your dress to garner a reaction, you are approaching this wedding thing all wrong.  People don’t always lose their minds over something you really love.  It doesn’t mean it’s not pretty.

Also, don’t shop for more gowns.  BE DONE!

Post # 12
2251 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Please don’t listen to them!  Don’t change your dress just to please some  inconsiderate  people!  Wear your dress with pride,  you’re beautiful in it. 

Post # 13
36 posts

I just wanted to chime in and say that if you do feel like your dress isn’t right, it is OK to change it. This is the one day all eyes will be on you, and you should feel absolutely wonderful in your dress. 

I also ordered a dress and then started rethinking things, and will mostl likely going with a different dress, but not because of what others said. That being said, I would only do this if YOU feel like it is not right, not because of what others say. I found myself getting so many different opinions that I couldn’t remember how I originally felt, and regretted asking others a few times. Everyone has their own style, and you will feel best and look best in what suits you and your personality, not what other people think is prettiest. If your dress suits you, that will come through in the pictures and every other aspect of your day.

If you do want to start looking again, just a few thoughts- go back to the same place you originally ordered your dress and be honest with them. They may be willing to give you a big discount if you decide to order a new dress. One of the dresses I am considering retails for $1500, and they will give it to me for $1200, plus $150 off the veil I would order with it, to help offset the cost of having already paid for half of my original dress.

But be very careful about looking again unless you really feel that your dress isn’t right for you. It can get messy, and they will always be a million other dresses out there that you love and just make your decision harder. Ultimately though, do what you want to have the dress that you want.


Post # 14
10353 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I don’t think your dress is particularly simple. Yes it has clean lines but it also has a tonne of lace and a fancy sash .

And I can only echo pp’s –  stop showing it to people!

Post # 15
1321 posts
Bumble bee

If you feel good, screw everyone else.

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