(Closed) Retired military groom wearing his dress blues (maybe)

posted 5 years ago in Military
Post # 16
237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I think it’s weird. My husband is out (USMC, decorated veteran, multiple tours to Iraq) and he wore a tux. I think that for those who are still in there is nothing sexier than blues and while he would have looked wonderful, the tux did him pretty damn good. We did have discussions about it and I stayed pretty hands off and let the decision be his own. His point was that he is now a civilian- it isn’t his life anymore. We went to another wedding last year of a guy he served with and he didn’t wear his either- nor did any of the groomsmen (and most of them were glad because they wouldn’t fit, LoL). I was kind of bummed about not doing the swords but we still incorporated his service in other ways- name tape sewn inside of my dress, cutting the cake with the sword, donation to Wounded Warrior Project in lieu of favors…


Edted to add- to each their own. Your day will be wonderful whatever he wears but you asked for opinions, we have a very similar background and that was what we ended up doing/why we decided. 

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 9 months ago by  HelloBlondie.
Post # 17
485 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

bridetobe91215:  I know this is old but I came on here to pose a question relating to dress blues and saw your discussion. I think it is not weird at all being that he retired and serviced many years and if that is something he wants to do, I think it is an honor.

I am having the conversation with my fiance that I do NOT know if wearing his dress blues is the best choice. Whereas yours retired, mine was discharged after 7 years of service. He keeps all of his items and has great memories of being in. He is a wonderful man, just made a very poor decision while in the service that resulted him in being dischanged for reasons other than honorable. Long story short, he was going through a rough patch of adjustment after coming back from oversees, made the poor decision to go out drinking and becoming disorderly resulting in a serious fight. As a recruiter- being the example for other young men and women out there, it was not tolerated and he was discharged. Because of this, I feel that although that was one mistake after the years of service, I just wouldnt think that it would be right for him to wear it.

My dad did 20 years in the ARMY and my brother is currently in. If they said they wanted to wear theirs for their wedding- I would be all for it. But for my Fiance, as much as I always support any decision he has… this one I feel like I do not support in the same way. He got upset with me because I know the military was his life for 7 years and he would have loved to stay in for 20… but I think circumstances are different.

Post # 18
13 posts

I think it’s great idea for him to wear his dress blues. Even though he his retired, he should go for it.

Post # 19
131 posts
Blushing bee

My granddad is retired Air Force and I’m pretty sure he wears his uniform to every family wedding he attends.

If you did the service, then I think you are 100% entitled to wear the uniform if you so choose. If you choose not to, then also totally fine.

Post # 20
2251 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Omg that would be AWESOME! !! Do it!   Do it! Do it!

Post # 21
21 posts

I think it is his call – whatever he prefers! It’s totally normal. I would be 100% fine with my boyfriend wearing his (I was never a uniform-chaser girl but he does look fine in them!!) but I also know that he will likely prefer not to. My granddad is retired Air Force after the full 20 years and wears his to every family wedding he attends. 

Some people take pride in it and see it as part of who they are, whereas others want to move on or feel they have to wear the uniform enough already. I know my boyfriend likes changing as soon as he gets back to his room most days and while something about those boots and camo pants on him is quite sexy, I really do understand why he’d prefer to get out of them once he’s done for the day.

Post # 22
588 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

My guy doesn’t want to wear his blues for our party. He says he associates the uniform with work and he wants our party to be different from that.

Post # 23
1 posts


Father Of The Bride June 7 2008.

Me and my daughter Cynthia.

Wearing my Army Service Blues during this very special day for my daughter Cynthia and Jeovani’s wedding June 7 2008.

Location- Basilica OLPH Brooklyn, NY 5th Avenue.

Post # 24
1906 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I think it makes sense especially if you supported him during his time in the military. But if you started at the end or after service I’d think it’s a bit of a nonsequitor. 

Who are you marrying… the soldier or the man?

(first husband wore his dress blues on our wedding day… he was proud of his service and still active… it defined us at the time.)

Post # 25
37 posts
  • Wedding: Scarborough, ME

I’ve been to two weddings with military men.  A few years ago my former college roommate married a Marine who wore his dress blues.  His groomsmen were also Marines and they did the sword ceremony which made for a very memorable wedding service.  Also, about 10 years ago we went to a wedding where the father of the bride who was a retired Coast Guard officer wore his dress blues and looked fantastic.  All of these guys earned the right to wear their uniforms at such events, all looked awesome, and most of the other guests were really impressed.  I know I was.

Post # 26
8827 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

Thread is 4 years old so closing it now


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