(Closed) Retracting offer to cover Bridesmaids dresses?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Is it acceptable to cover some of the cost of dress now?
    Yes, perfectly acceptable as the situation has changed. : (43 votes)
    52 %
    No, you have asked and should honour your offer. : (39 votes)
    48 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think since the situation has changed and they dont have to spend nearly as much to attented the wedding, that it would be perfectly fair to adjust how much you help out to cover, since the original offer was because of the Destination Wedding.

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think it’s pefectly okay. They no longer need to take off as much time from work, use travel/sick time etc. They don’t need a hotel, or at least for as long. They don’t need airfare, etc. They’re saving a lot of money by you staying in town!

    Post # 5
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    2822 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I think thats fine. Like the PP said, they no longer have to pay for the Destination Wedding or take extra time off from work etc.

    Post # 6
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    you’ve chosen dresses that cost more than $200?! yikes! Obviously I’m not you, but if I were (since I wouldn’t have chosen dresses that expensive to begin with…) I’d definitely still pay for them.

    Post # 7
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    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think it would depend on how much they are? Have you picked them out yet? Maybe you could just look for some that are under $200?

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I am pretty sure it would be OK especially since you are offering to pay some but me, personally, I’d feel bad ‘taking it back’. It was very generous of you to offer:)

    Post # 9
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’d think it’s ok, but if you can afford $200, why not just look for dresses in that budget and then you can still cover them.

    Post # 10
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    963 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    @Mrs.RDV: Agreed.  Find dresses that are under $200 with alterations and pay for them.  Problem solved!

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I think you explaining your situation to each girl would be awesome or to possibly find a gown less than $200 and say alterations are on them; thats a sweet deal if you ask me!

    Alfred Angelo is a great place to find an inexpensive gown, my personal goal was to choose a gown under $150.  And the gowns I chose were $99/each and then each girl got $20/each dress since we went on a “Girls Night” ::SWEET!::

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I voted yes, but I ALSO agree that if you haven’t chosen the dresses already, try to pick ones that are cheaper.

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I got a bridesmaid dress, and alteratons for under $200. It can be done!

    If you can still cover part of the cost, go for it, perhaps pick a less expensive dress and tell them you have budgeted $X to cover the cost and  they can pick up the rest. This is more than generous and will still be appreciated!

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I think if you already offered to pay for the dresses, then you should pay.  

    Post # 16
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    1240 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Also, if you get your dress and their dress at the same place, you usually get a discount. So check into that as well.

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