(Closed) Return address etiquette

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
968 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think you should do what works best, and in your case, I think using your FI’s address will be perfectly fine. It simplifies the situation and will cause less stress. I say go for it.

Post # 4
939 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree, go with whatever is easiest.  Sometimes etiquettte just doesn’t make sense in life.

Post # 5
941 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’ve actually never heard the RSVPs get sent to the bride’s family, though I’m not fully versed in etiquette.

That being said, I agree with the previous posters…no reason you have to stick with a rule that is unpractical and ultimately not about being polite.  It seems like etiquette is a good guideline, but there’s no reason to stick with it if it’s not necessary and especially if it won’t be hurting anyone’s feelings not to.  

Post # 6
5778 posts
Bee Keeper

It makes the most sense and doesn’t really matter who gets them, honestly. Both my daughters had the responses sent to them so they could have the excitement of opening and tracking them.

Post # 7
509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think the brides family rule has more to do with the fact the bride used to still live at home because of her age, and because her family was paying for the wedding so they needed to know how much the wedding would cost.


We’re using our own address since we’re the ones paying.


Do what’s best for you!

Post # 8
1696 posts
Bumble bee

@SnowflakeDS:  First of all, pre-addressed pre-printed R.s.v.p. cards are not traditional, and are not approved by formal etiquette anyway. They are (supposedly) a convenience to the hostess who (probably with reason nowadays) assumes her family and friends don’t know what etiquette really does require.

Etiquette requires that responses (hand written, on personal stationery or plain white note paper) be sent back to whomever is requesting the pleasure. But, those responses can be directed to whatever mailing address the hostess indicates: including that of a hired social secretary.

So, were I replying to such an invitation, I would address the response to

Mr and Mrs Bride’s Mom
12234 Groomsparents Street
Groomstown, State

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