(Closed) Return address for invites when we don't live together?

posted 5 years ago in Paper
  • poll: How should we phrase the return address for our RSVP envelopes?
    put both your names and your home return address : (25 votes)
    64 %
    put just your home return address (no names) : (10 votes)
    26 %
    put both your names and have the return address as the PO box : (2 votes)
    5 %
    other (please explain) : (2 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Just get it sent to your address but put both names on it. 

    Post # 4
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’m in the same situation. I put both our names and my home address.

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    it goes to whoever is hosting it.

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I would want it sent to wherever I was living, because I looovvveed getting RSVP’s in the mail everyday. 

    Post # 7
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We put both of our names and my home address. Thats how Ive always seen it for my friends who live seperately before the wedding: both names with the bride’s address. 

    Post # 8
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    Who is hosting? If it’s your parents, then then response cards and return address are both to your parents (although you usually leave off the name on the return address).

    Post # 9
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    I’d pick the first option.

    Post # 10
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Both names addressed to whoever would be more responsible for keep track of the rsvps and doing the tallying.

    Post # 11
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Don’t mean to threadjack but I have a similar question. My father is hosting, but he lives in New York. I live in VA close to my fiance who lives with his parents. I want to use his home address so I don’t burden my dad with having to sort the responses (plus I want to open them!:) hehe), but is it poor ettiquette to not use his address?

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We are hosting, so our names will go on it but the address will be mine.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I used to be an invitations maker.  If you don’t live together, just do your name and your address.  Both your names don’t need to be on it.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    @moose91:  Technically, but I doubt anyone will really care if your Dad doesn’t care. You can also always have them sent to your address with his name as long as you have the same last name (don’t want to confuse the postman).

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee

    Have them sent to the home of whoever is in charge of keeping track of R.s.v.p.’s, updating the spreadsheet, etc. and have them sent only in the name of the person who lives at that address. People will know that it’s relevant to both of you, but it does cause problems with the postman to deliver something with a name that doesn’t match the names of people living at that address.

    By way of illustration: we’ll be living in the apartment where my FI lives now, but I’m not planning to move in there until after the wedding, and I will be moving out of my place when my own lease is up, 6 weeks before the wedding, and staying somewhere temporarily in the interim. So, we used his address for all of the registry stuff, but the store put it under the bride’s name. We also set up a checking account for our wedding fund, and it has both our names on it but the statements are arriving in my name. With UPS and FedEx deliveries it’s fine, but the mailman wrote “???” on the bank statement and wanted to know what was going on … so for the invitations, the R.s.v.p. cards will be addressed back to his address and in his name.

    Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @moose91:   Ask your dad, if he is hosting the wedding he may want this honor. Or he may happily give it up.  If both parents are hosting – Then, check the invite wording and go ahead and have the RSVP to his parents or to yourself.  If you are hosting and it is an informal event just use first names. 

    My husband and I paid for all of our wedding, I had the RSVPs sent with just his last name to our address.  I figured everyone would know that it was “our” address because of the obvious state but no – many older guests thought his parents hosted the wedding, even though our invite clearly said Ke Aloha and Ko’u Aloha .

     

     

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