Post # 1
I am sending out my save the dates on Monday and have just finished hand addressing all the envelopes for each guest. I ordered return address labels for the back of the envelopes, so I wouldn’t have to hand address that as well. My fiance and I are paying for the majority of the wedding and we are taking care of all the logistics, so we want the invitations to come back to us if they are returned.
On the address labels I wrote “Joe and April” on the first line followed by our address. I showed these to a friend and her first response was, “I thought you didn’t want everyone knowing you live together.” Oops! I thought that by putting “Joe and April” that would show that we are hosting the wedding, not living together. We do in fact live together, but we didn’t want to make it obvious and upset our conservative guests. It’s too late to reorder labels now, so my only options are to use them or handwrite our return address on all the envelopes. Do you guys think that having our names on the first line means we live together? Do you have any other suggestions for me?
Post # 3
If I received it, I wouldn’t think twice about it. Couples are doing all sorts of things on address labels, whereas in the past there was more of “rules” about it. I wouldn’t give it a second thought and just use them. If you are concerned about a few particular people then just hand write those, if you think they are the type of people that will notice.
Post # 4
@tksjewelry: Your idea makes a lot of sense. It’s not too much work to handwrite some of them and use the labels on the rest.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
You just KNOW the older women are going to gossip about it. 😉
We just wound up putting the address without our names.
Post # 6
To answer your question, yes, if I saw your two names and one address I would assume you two lived together. Just wanted to add that I personally see nothing wrong with it, but then again I’m not the conservative guest you’re concerned about, lol.
Post # 7
@Bichon Frise: Well I would assume that you did live together, but I also would quite possibly not notice the return address unless I was looking to send you a gift. I don’t think its really a big deal, but if you think some guests would be offended, just hand write their return address 🙂
Post # 8
I agree with PPs, I wouldn’t worry about it! If I recieved your invitation, I wouldn’t think twice about the return address label.
….Okay, maybe I would notice since I’m planning my wedding, but nobody else will! 🙂
Post # 9
oh no!! 🙂 i think it can be seen both ways.. if the conservative guests (like my entire old school italian family!!) think twice about it someone can “explain” that it’s your address alone but you put both names because you’re both hosting it….
or you can save confusion and anxiety on your behalf and just handwrite the address with no name. i think you will feel more comfortable with this option.
You can use the lables later when you’re writing out your thank yous after you’re married.
save your anxiety and just handwrite for now, and use lables when you’re married. yea!
Post # 10
Most people who get those won’t even notice. It’s not a big enough issue to worry about.
Also, labels are fine for save the dates as those are informal. But the envelopes of the invites need to be handwritten.