(Closed) Return address – me and FI hosting wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would just put your own name.  That is what we did even though we lived together.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Hmm I never heard that it should just be the bride’s name (not that I’m all caught up on my etiquette rules)…I think we were planning on having both our names (we live together). I’ll have to ask the calligrapher to be sure though!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m just putting our address – no names and on the RSVP envelope it’s just my name.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

never even thought of this– FH and I live together and while we are having a fairly casual wedding as we are doing a destination wedding– I would like to try and follow some of the rules.. 🙂

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Does everyone you’re sending invitations to know you?  Fiance is inviting old college friends I’ve never met, so I’m using both last names and then our address, so people will recognize the name right away.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

Fiance and I are hosting our own wedding as well.  For the return address on the invites I’m doing:

His Last Name/My Last Name

Address

Post # 10
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

You could not put names on the return address for the invites but what are you going to put on the RSVP cards?

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m consulting an etiquette book b/c I’m moving in 2 months before we get married b/c heck it take time to merge two households!  We’ll be both at same address.

That’s what I’d do and when there’s a question of etiquette, I either do that or pay a visit to my local RSVP store.  They’re really helpful. 

Post # 12
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388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I don’t think etiquette matters here. No one will notice or care.  I say just put the address of whoever is dealing with stuff.  Etiquette is important in order to prevent hurt feelings and other important issues, but I think in 2010 etiquette for it’s own sake is not important.  So I would do whatever is practical for you and move on.

Post # 13
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165 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Fi and I also live together, and I felt like if I only put my name his feelings would be hurt (he’s touchy about some things, ha), so as the return address I put my last/his last name wedding and then the rest of our address, i.e.

Blue/Red Wedding

123 Wedding Lane

Wedding, OH 12345

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think just your name is fine.  The reply cards should be sent to the person who will be responsible for keeping track of who is/is not coming.  In our case I put both of our names, since we live together and I’m HOPING he’s going to be assisting me with keeping track of the guest list. 

 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

We didn’t have our name, just our address.  Also our return address was on the back of the envelope on the flap, not in the upper left hand corner.

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