(Closed) Return and reply card address.. not living together

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

It would drive me nuts having my replies go to someone other than me. Doesn’t matter who is paying, you’re planning right? Get them sent to you so you can keep track of everything. 

Post # 4
250 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We plan to use my fiance’s address with both of our names.  I wouldn’t be concerned about confusion among traditional family members. You may, however, want to list your name first, so that USPS doesn’t see your FI’s name and fail to associate him with your address; I’ve run into that problem before!

Post # 5
565 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Just use the name of the person living at the address.

Post # 6
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Just put the address.

Post # 7
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would have them come to you, so you can keep track. And just for your own benefit, as you will be the one most excited to see them come in, right? Personally I wouldn’t be able to wait to see them come back.

Post # 8
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Trust me, you are going to want all the reply cards-getting those little envelopes back in the mail was the highlight of my day! Just have your name for everything- return and reply address.

Post # 9
846 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

i would just put whatever address you are living at.

my fiance and i are both living at our parents to save money, so i am putting both of our names with my parents address where i live for the rsvp.

Post # 11
735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Ther return address on the invitations does not need a name; but you do need to decide what address to use.  For the RSVP address – you can have guests send replies to any trusted person.

I chose to use my home address for both the invitation return address and the RSVP address- I was already living there, it’s where we are living now (after the wedding) and my parents (while great and they actually live much closer to the wedding location than I do) might not have kept me up-to-date enough about my RSVPs… They don’t check the mail every single day.  Plus, it was fun to get the mail!

Some of my family is traditional enough that they mail gifts before the wedding, so I wanted to make sure that there was no question about my home address – a lot of people will use the return address on the invitation to verify the address they have for you. 

On my invitation envelopes I used just my address (on the back flap)  “123 Main Street, Houston, Texas 77000”

On the RSVP reply envelopes I had my name and address printed “Miss Umbrella Moon, 123 Main Street, Houston, Texas 77000”

It’s probably not a great idea to use a name that isn’t yours yet (“The Future Mrs.”) – I know that my post office would have lost at least some of those envelopes… they’re not the most reliable in the city, I don’t want to do anything to make it any more confusing to get my imporant mail!  Plus, there’s no reason you should need to do that; even if your Fiance has some distant relative you haven’t met yet, both of your names will be on the wedding invitation, there won’t be any confusion about who you are when they fill out and return the reply card.

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