Post # 1
I knew it would happen…I addressed too many invitations in one sitting and got one wrong. I don’t even know how I did this cause the mistake doesn’t make sense. For instance, say this person’s address was 23 Main Street – I didn’t write 32 Main Street, or 2 Main Street, or 3 Main Street…No, I wrote 100 Main Street. The address above or below on my spreadsheet wasn’t 100, so I don’t really know where it came from.
Anyway…Now the invitation has been returned to me 2 weeks later and I feel awful and I’m afraid that this person thinks she wasn’t invited when the other 4-5 people in the social group were. I will be seeing this guest tomorrow night. Would it be okay to hand deliver a new invitation to her or should I mail a new one? I almost feel like bringing the returned invitation with me, just so I can show her that she wasn’t forgotten or an afterthought, but my bride brain just completely missed her address.
Oh, and if it matters, it’s a former co-workers of FI’s. While he was working for the company, a bunch of them used to hang out fairly regularly. Since he’s left the company, he still hangs out with a few of the guys, but rarely (like 1-2 a year) with the whole group. He still felt like he needed to invite the whole group. I’ve never actually met this woman…
Post # 3
This happened to us- I forgot to put the apartment number on a friend’s invitation so when it was returned to me, I dropped it off at the friend’s house myself, apologized for it being late, and we all had a good laugh about it. No big deal, just apologize, blame it on ‘wedding brain’ and have a giggle.
Post # 4
If it was me, and I was going to see the person I would bring it and show her/give it to her. Makes it easier on everyone. I am sure if you did send her a new one she wouldn’t think that she was an after thought. I would just give it to her 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia
I think you should hand it to her in person. I think that’s totally fine. I would also leave it in the returned envelope, so just in case she does feel slighted, she can see that you just made an honest (bride-brain!!) mistake.
Post # 6
Definitely give it to her tomorrow and explain why it was late 🙂
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Take the undelivered envelope with you and hand deliver it.
Post # 8
I would just bring her the returned one and to her the funny story. Nothing wrong with that at all!
Post # 9
Yea – why not just hand her the returned one and explain what happened. It might be a little awkward since you’ve never spoken to her before, but just be friendly and poke fun at yourself a little and I’m sure it’ll go well.
Post # 10
Yes, this is a non-problem. Hand deliver it to her and make a point of getting the correct address, and you’re just fine.
Post # 11
You’re seeing her tomorrow. Just hand deliver the “incorrect one” and she’ll immediately know that you thought of her the first time around… just mislabeled!
Post # 12
this happened to me but i was supposed to be receiving the invite. it went to another unit in my complex.
no big deal. my friend called me and told me her error when the gentleman who received the invite contacted her. i just walked over to his unit and picked up the invite.
just take the invite tomorrow and hand deliver it. i’m sure she will be as forgiving as i was.
Post # 14
Agree with PPs that you should hand-deliver it, and when you see her just make a casual joke about it – I accidentally wrote down 3 apartment numbers wrong on the envelopes, those people called me out on it, and I ended up re-mailing the new envelopes to them since they were all out-of-towners. None of them were mad.
Post # 15
Just resend it!!!!!! It’s not the first time something got mixed up in the mail!!!!!
Post # 16
1) hand deliver the returned envelope…just explain you were up late adressing invites and must have messed up
2) tell her tomorrow you got her invite back and re-sent a new one
We had one get COMPLETELY lost in the mail….and didn’t know until the person (who is in DH’s immediate friend circle) asked about it!! GASP!! I was soooo embarassed! We also had an invite get returned, even though we confirmed with the initees their address!! We ended up just talking to them via phone for the rsvp 🙂