(Closed) Returned Invitation – How do I get an invitation to this person now?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
5479 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

This happened to us- I forgot to put the apartment number on a friend’s invitation so when it was returned to me, I dropped it off at the friend’s house myself, apologized for it being late, and we all had a good laugh about it.  No big deal, just apologize, blame it on ‘wedding brain’ and have a giggle.

Post # 4
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582 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If it was me, and I was going to see the person I would bring it and show her/give it to her. Makes it easier on everyone. I am sure if you did send her a new one she wouldn’t think that she was an after thought. I would just give it to her 🙂 

Post # 5
Member
911 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

I think you should hand it to her in person. I think that’s totally fine. I would also leave it in the returned envelope, so just in case she does feel slighted, she can see that you just made an honest (bride-brain!!) mistake.

Post # 6
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9625 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

Definitely give it to her tomorrow and explain why it was late 🙂

Post # 7
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9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Take the undelivered envelope with you and hand deliver it.

Post # 8
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10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I would just bring her the returned one and to her the funny story. Nothing wrong with that at all!

Post # 9
Member
1576 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yea – why not just hand her the returned one and explain what happened. It might be a little awkward since you’ve never spoken to her before, but just be friendly and poke fun at yourself a little and I’m sure it’ll go well.

Post # 10
Member
3697 posts
Sugar bee

Yes, this is a non-problem. Hand deliver it to her and make a point of getting the correct address, and you’re just fine.

Post # 11
Hostess
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You’re seeing her tomorrow. Just hand deliver the “incorrect one” and she’ll immediately know that you thought of her the first time around… just mislabeled!

Post # 12
Member
11273 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

this happened to me but i was supposed to be receiving the invite.  it went to another unit in my complex.

no big deal.  my friend called me and told me her error when the gentleman who received the invite contacted her.  i just walked over to his unit and picked up the invite. 

just take the invite tomorrow and hand deliver it.  i’m sure she will be as forgiving as i was.

Post # 14
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1217 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Agree with PPs that you should hand-deliver it, and when you see her just make a casual joke about it – I accidentally wrote down 3 apartment numbers wrong on the envelopes, those people called me out on it, and I ended up re-mailing the new envelopes to them since they were all out-of-towners. None of them were mad.

Post # 15
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883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Just resend it!!!!!!  It’s not the first time something got mixed up in the mail!!!!!

 

 

Post # 16
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1306 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

1) hand deliver the returned envelope…just explain you were up late adressing invites and must have messed up

or

2) tell her tomorrow you got her invite back and re-sent a new one

 

We had one get COMPLETELY lost in the mail….and didn’t know until the person (who is in DH’s immediate friend circle) asked about it!! GASP!! I was soooo embarassed! We also had an invite get returned, even though we confirmed with the initees their address!! We ended up just talking to them via phone for the rsvp 🙂

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