- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
My whole relationship is a bit of a weird situation, and everyone in my life is being really negative about it so I am just really unsure what to do now.
I am in a long distance relationship, with someone I met online. We met online by chance three years ago (not on a dating site) and have kept in touch online ever since.
We talked as friends and realized that we were both getting nowhere with a relationship with other people and maybe, just maybe, we should give it a shot.
He flew up here for a weekend and we were both sold. We talk daily online and on the phone, and I think this is the real deal.
We are talking about both packing up our lives and moving 1500 miles to Colorado, him from Florida and me from Massachusetts.
This would mean moving in together only having a few “dates” in person under our belts. It would also mean giving up my career as I would NOT have a job lined up when I move. He is wealthy, and the financials are taken care of.
I am truly concerned about getting up and moving from my current life here. I really, really want to move to Colorado and be with him–but I am 22 years old. If I stop working, or switch fields, I may kill my career before it’s even started. We would be moving in together without really “knowing” each other.
Am I making a huge mistake? Everyone in my life is telling me we’ll break up in six months, I’ll be stranded with no career, if I give up my career and we divorce I will never be able to get a job again, I’m too young, etc. I worry that I am being blinded by the expensive gifts and the lifestyle he is offering me. I get the sense that he really cares about me and really wants this to work but I am so nervous about moving in with someone, talking about getting married, etc at age 22.
He and I have talked about this but he has the comfort of his money and a job when we move. As much as a life where I don’t have to work appeals to me…I don’t think I know how to be that person. I’m very confused and worried about the way that I’m feeling about it.
A few kind words or thoughts would be greatly appreciated.