Post # 1
I feel like there are so many ridiculous assumptions about rings both on this site and in real life. What are some of your pet peeves? Mine are:
- A person with a bigger diamond went into debt for it or otherwise made a poor financial decision
- A person with a smaller diamond couldn’t afford a larger diamond
- A bigger diamond must be worse quality than a smaller diamond
- A person who went with moissanite would have gone with a diamond if they could have afforded it
Everyone has different tastes and priorities and I for one think that’s a GREAT thing.
Post # 2
So true! I especially relate to the assumption that people with smaller diamonds can’t afford something larger.
My diamond is roughly 0.5 carats and I’ve gotten comments about how small it is compared to the “average” diamond these days. It’s my grandma’s diamond so the sentimental value was worth so much more to me than the diamond quality or size! My mom told Fiance he could trade it in and use the value towards something bigger, but that totally defeated the point of inheriting her diamond in my eyes.
Post # 3
Interesting thread! These are my assumptions :
A clear stone is always a diamond
A large stone (regardless of quality) means the guy is very wealthy and generous. Lucky girl
Post # 4
mgrd7531 : Absolutely. You can’t put a price on the sentimental value of your diamond.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2019 - Queens, NY
I’ve seen those around, for sure. I’m not engaged yet, but I’ve told a few people I don’t want a diamond because I don’t care for them. My SO knows to get me a purple sapphire. There’s been some dumb assumptions that somehow he’s not as well-off as they thought since I requested he not spend the money on a diamond.
I’m just like “My taste. My ring. My choice of stone.”
Post # 6
I would also add to this: stones that are not diamonds are temporary and a diamond is most desirable. I’m perfectly happy with my Moissanite and it’s not going anywhere ☺️
catthebee37 : I love purple 💜
Post # 7
I’ve always hated the assumption that if you don’t have a ring or a “real” diamond then your engagement is not real or he doesn’t love/value you. I just hate how others judge folks for being different especially when it comes to your ring choice.
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2019 - Queens, NY
missconvy : Me too! It’s my favorite color ever and I spent years trying to figure out a solution for my lack of desire to have a diamond because I wanted a purple stone, but none are hard enough to wear daily when you’re me. I’m clumsy and hit my hands constantly on things, so I can’t go with a softer stone because it’s not worth the risk of damaging it in my eyes. When I realized sapphires come in purple I about died of happiness and promptly informed my SO that I wanted a purple sapphire center stone in my engagement ring.
His assumption? That I was joking.
Actually a couple people have assumed I’m joking when I’ve said I have no desire to have a diamond ring.
Post # 9
If I see a big stone I assume it’s either fake or the wearer isn’t British. Small stones in the UK. They wouldn’t even SHOW me a 1ct in a jewellers here.
Post # 10
beekay : The assumptions about moissanite s always get to me. I really dislike the assumption that Moissanites are temporary and are meant to eventually lead to an “upgrade” later down the road.
I personally chose moissanite for both ethical and financial reasons. I knew from a very young age that I absolutely did not want a mined diamond. When it came time to actually shop for rings, I looked at tons of different stones but ultimately decided on moissanite for its durability. I COULD have purchased a relatively small diamond ring but I just didn’t want that. I wanted something that would look nice on a size eight finger and wouldn’t blow our savings. Moissanite it was and I have NO intentions of upgrading.
Post # 11
Lots of hate for clusters! They are trying to pass as a larger stone, the couple can’t afford anything better, they’re temporary, they’re tacky. Ridiculous. Some people just LIKE clusters (shocking) and they sparkle like crazy!
Post # 12
I don’t think anyone on here thinks a larger stone is worse quality than a small stone by default. People comment that it’s a possibility when people start dumb threads where you judge how wealthy people are by the diamond size.
Post # 13
curiouscat2017 : Fair. I only added that one because there was a very active thread recently where this was discussed.
Post # 14
The one I hate is that the size of the ring/cost of the ring is an indication of how much you are loved.
Post # 15
OP, I hear you on the badly mistaken assumptions. But anyone who makes these massive extrapolations re diamonds probably has a fairly limited worldview, and they’re not people I would generally take very seriously, so it doesn’t bother me at all.
No one I know in real life cares that much about other people’s diamonds. Thank goodness for that, or I’d have to find new people to hang out with.