Ridiculous Assumptions

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
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664 posts
Busy bee

We made the ethical choice to go with a lab diamond and we gladly share that fact however but people have assumed that 

1) I/he was duped and that we actually wanted a mined diamond

2) We made the choice due to cost and wanted to pass it off as mined  

3) That we didn’t know moissanite existed and would fall in love with one instantly if we saw it. 

Post # 18
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398 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

I have a bit of a different assumption that I deal with in daily life. I work in a largely man-dominated profession, and the (very) few women around wear simple bands. So the assumption/stereotype is – if you wear a blingy ring, you’re “less serious”, more “girly” and potentially, not as capable from the professional standpoint.

Post # 19
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109 posts
Blushing bee

That is must be a real Diamond, not cubic Zirconium (spelling).

Must be yellow gold not white gold or platinum or even silver

(I have very old fashioned parents and while I am not engaged currently they have commmented on my jewlrey taste many times)

 

Post # 20
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9729 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

poppy77 :  My first ring was a cluster! Admittedly, I hated clusters but ultimately went with it because I thought people expected me to have a diamond and we really couldn’t afford a diamond in a size I would want at the time. So even owning one I was one of those judgey people.

Post # 21
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1081 posts
Bumble bee

It’s really annoying to me when people assume that every woman wants a diamond, or that if she has a ring with different gemstones it’s because her Fiance couldn’t afford diamonds.

Gee, instead of maybe accepting that your FI knew what you wanted and got something you would love?

Post # 22
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1773 posts
Buzzing bee

That the reason I don’t want a moissanite is because I don’t understand a moissanite. 

That a coloured stone doesn’t belong in an engagement ring. 

That you need a big fancy ring to be engaged.

That a ring should be a “classic” setting like a solitaire. 

Post # 24
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398 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

beekay :  Very interesting! I wasn’t aware of that study but their findings totally make sense. I used to be a bit self-conscious, althouth my ring is not really expensive or anything, but just the fact that I do have a ring next to my band would make me feel uncomfortable sometimes. Intriguingly, I had some disapproving looks from other women, but never from men.

Post # 25
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278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2006

catthebee37 :  I have a purple sapphire I had set into a ring, and it cost more money than my diamond engagement ring. Some people think sapphires are inexpensive, but natural, untreated sapphires can cost a lot of money! I love purple too. I think that will be a great choice for an engagement ring.

Post # 26
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383 posts
Helper bee

 beekay :  This is very, very interesting as I was having a similar discussion the other day.  I plan to start interviewing soon to get another job and I have a 1.9 center ct stone on my hand but very far from being ‘rich’.  I was thinking whether it would make sense to leave home my engagement ring while interviewing?

Post # 28
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383 posts
Helper bee

beekay :  Not married…but maybe I will do a band anyhow. Good idea!

Post # 29
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2484 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

I agree with all of those pet peeves! They drive me nuts too.

Personally, I also really dislike when a girl has a cheaper set and people assume it’s because her FI/DH wouldn’t shell out more. My Fiance probably would have gotten me (within reason) almost anything I wanted but I was the one who wanted to use the money we could have spent on the ring towards our dream honeymoon!

Post # 30
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20 posts
Newbee

That someone with any other stone can’t afford a diamond. My fiance only looked at diamonds even though I was interested in Morganites (they’re just so beautiful and I’ve seen some stunning morganite rings on the bee…) but in his profession, appearance is everything and he said he didn’t want people to think he was being cheap with me… I don’t think it has anything to do with money, it’s just personal preference. 

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