Post # 1
Sorry Bees I need to vent and this is the only place my friends wont see it.
Firstly, I am getting around 10 text messages and phonecalls a day concerning my hen weekend which is not happening for another 11 months!! “who is sharing rooms with who?” “what are we wearing?” “what are the exact plans for every day..?” etc…
It makes me angry as I have a whole wedding to plan and shouldnt be worrying about this yet.
The other thing i’m stressing about is that one of my bridesmaids who is also my ‘best friend’ keeps saying “dont eat this, dont eat that” (actually quite embarrassing in front of people) and “you need to come to zumba at least 3 times a week, you need to lose weight for your wedding dress”.
I HAVE HASHIMOTOS DISEASE, SHE CANNOT ACCEPT THIS AND THINKS I CAN LOSE WEIGHT EASILY.
Believe me, I have tried, she just makes me so mad, I want to cancel the hen weekend and really really wish I had stuck with the original idea of having no adult bridesmaids, they are causing me stress.
One of my friends even spent a whole day last week designing a logo for tshirts and bags for the hen weekend, I dont want any of this, I know what I want but my friend seem determined to make it about what they want.
Thanks for letting me vent.
Post # 3
Want to switch bridesmaids? I texted mine the picture of the dress I bought (alone) and no one replied for like two days. I had to ask two of them if they got it. I emailed a picture to my mom and she never even responded!!! I called to ask if she got it and she was like, yeah.
So I’ll trade you! I would love people to be planning ANYTHING…be interested even a LITTLE!
Post # 4
@Darshyk: Oof, sorry. I think a little bit of (calm/rational) discussion is in order. Next time they go spazzing on you (or monitoring your food/exercise, wtf?!) say that you’re an adult, with an illness, and you can manage yourself quite well, thank you. A frank and polite but forceful response should hopefully shut down the rudeness. As for the unwanted hen party/etc, maybe see if you can get a few of the BMs to see your point of view and they can help rein in the gal(s) that aren’t really listening to your wishes.
Post # 5
I had a friend tell everyone on facebook was throwing my bachelorette party and whoever liked the comment on facebook could come. (I haven’t officially picked bridesmaids yet, but she was never a contender.) After a few nice email exchanges she apologized and said she didnt realize she was jumping the gun. I know its a little different, but maybe if you tell everyone you can’t focus on your hen for a few months then they will back off? They probably think they’re being supportive and have no idea they’re driving you crazy (thats what my friend thought).
Post # 6
Dont worry, friends are weird sometimes, i send picture of the tiara i want to buy to my friend, i was exited, then she comment, “i never get why people like to wear tiaras, you are not a princess” same friend said before to me” you want to wear mermaid dress? you ned to do a lot for have a waist ….” so at the end, i just fell that is my moment and i should enjoy it, dont matters the opinion of anothers “friends”.
Post # 7
@Darshyk: I have a friend who always advice me about how it should be my wedding.. i think she dont understand that i will do like me and my guy want to do, no what she thinks is right to do, also she always asking how much things cost, and i dont really fell confortable sharing my finances!! is so weird coments like “oh you doing a friday wedding? you dont think i have to go to make my hair and make up! you dont know weddings are on saturday when people can go to make hair and make up before and not just running after work”…
i’m who is getting marry.. so probably i have the right to pick the day!…
Post # 8
@peachacid: I agree, I can see how OP’s situation can be stressful too but right now I would be flattered to have that kind of stress. I *wish* I had someone that excited about planning an event in honor of us. Fiance and I are doing everything by ourselves (err rather by MYself), with a little help from my sisters.