Post # 1
Please be a lifesaver and help me…My family arranged my marriage to someone I did not know, when I met the person, I did not like him at all but I had to give into family pressure, the marriage was just fixed verbally.Within a week after that the person said something really creepy and vulgar which I was not comfortable with morally and the next day I told my father who called off the whole thing. Now after all this time, a feeling has crept into my mind a guilt that was I pre-destined to meet and marry this guy, if yes, did I make a mistake by finishing things off or was I right (since i did not like him)and the right person chosen by God is out there?Totally confused!!!Is there one person for everyone??
Post # 3
Heck no! I think there’s many people out there who can be right for you. YOu just have to narrow down who you want to spend the rest of your life with. Like those of us who have been married before – thank God that person wasn’t the only “right” person for us or we’d never see happiness again. But there are others out there. Which is also why I don’t believe in soulmates.
I feel that a person should marry the person they love. If you didn’t like this man, why be locked in to a marriage that most likely wouldn’t be happy and satisfying?
Post # 4
@GFerg: +1 ;
there is def not just one person out there for you!
Post # 5
You didn’t feel attracted to him at first for a reason…I don’t think he would have been the one for you.
Post # 6
@Rockstar77: There are many people with whom you can be compatible and even fall in love. You need to choose that person for yourself with no outside parental involvement, then you can be assured you have made the right choice.
God will guide you without any interference from anyone else, you can trust Him.
Post # 7
No. The idea of a soulmate is ludicrous.
If you don’t like him, you don’t like him. There are others out there with whom you are more compatible.
Post # 8
I am not religious, so I cannot say that your “destined” SO is chosen by god. What I do think is that there is somebody out there for you, and if the stars align (Not literally), you’ll meet that person.
If this person is not setting well for you, then I would go with your gut instinct. Your gut will tell you more than you’ll ever need to know in a shorter amount of time.
Love is fleeting. Make it extordinary because love is too beautiful to be mediocre.
I wish you the best of luck with your family, your wedding and yourself… do things for you, because you want them or need them. Love the person YOU love.
Post # 9
I believe in soulmates, but I think your guy def wasn’t your soulmate! Creepy and vulgar? No! I’m glad you got out of it.
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
You didn’t like him and found out something that was creepy- You are not destined to be with this person. Your parents wanted it, not God. If it was destined, it would happen. You’ll meet someone who knocks you off your feet!
Post # 11
You know what, there MAY be one person out there for everybody, though I’m disinclined to believe that notion. That said, obviously that bro was NOT your “the one.” If he was, your instincts would not have been telling you to run, run, run! Trust yourself, you know what’s best for you, more than you know.
Post # 12
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
This still happens in 2012? Regardless of whether or not there is just one person for everyone in this world this guy is clearly not it for you.
Post # 13
Even if there only was one person out there who would be the right person (which I don’t believe) I don’t think you would find them creepy!
Post # 14
It is about compatibility not destiny.
Post # 15
@mchitt329: +1 That’s what I was thinking!
Post # 16
I’ve no idea what religious tradition you’re from, but I’m Christian and I voted “no”.
There are many compatible guys out there for you…. and your ex-fiance is not one of them!