Post # 1
Ok, so SO and I have decided to get engaged within the next two years. First, I need to give him my ring requirements; I’m simply going to make a folder on the computer and let him know when it’s done so he can go through it. I;m giving him three designs to choose from but now is the time to talk materials and stones. So, two things:
What metal is your ring? What are the pros and cons? No matter which ring design he chooses, I want a shiny, silver metal- think white gold, or platinum. Not sterling silver because that is what my promise ring is and it is rather pliable. It’s shaped to my finger now. What are some other options, as cost is a factor? I’m trying to find a good mix of shiny, durable, and cost-efficient (we can always have the stones reset into a new, more expensive metal later). I have a white gold necklace from my brother; could I have it melted down into a ring? Would it help cut costs a little if we provided some or all of the metal? Pros and cons of this (if I did this, I would not upgrade later due to how sentimental it would be).
Secondly, give me some diamond alternatives and their pros and cons. Two of the designs I have in mind involve white stones as accents- all I’ve really decided on is that I don’t want white topaz, and white sapphirs would be ok, but I’d prefer something shinier. Again- cost effectiveness, sparkle, and durability! (And again, since it’s not sentimental, I’m not opposed to replacing the stones with true diamonds when we have the money). So I’d like to hear from everyone- moissy girls, CZs, everyone. Why did you choose the stone you did, and not others? Pros and cons of your stones? What other stones did you consider?
Post # 3
I think that the way the price of gold is going, unless it drops – that platinum is a good bet. It used to be much more expensive than gold, but right now if I’m not mistaken it’s cheaper or the same price. The bonus with platinum is that it doesn’t yellow over time like white gold does. You wouldn’t need to have it redipped or polished. As far as durability goes, white gold is really strong too, you wouldn’t have to worry like you do with silver.
EDIT – I have a diamond, I actually didn’t even know what a moissy was until I already was engaged and on here. From what I’ve read though, they look great, and if you’re not caught up on having a diamond, they seem like a good bet!
Post # 4
@lia22: Hmm. I’ll have to keep that in mind- the main reason I’m thinking about white gold is so I could have the necklace my brother gave me melted down. And I am most definitely not caught up on having a diamond- I just want something sparkly to accent the sapphire I have. The sapphire would be the center stone.
Post # 5
How about palladium? Same properties as platinum (hypoallergenic, naturally white/never needs rhodium plating, scratches can be buffed out without losing metal, etc.), but more lightweight and way less expensive! The only con I can think of is that, from what I’ve read, many jewelers are unfamiliar with it and hesitant to work with it.
I don’t have my ring yet, but it will be palladium with a peridot stone. It’s sentimental (SO has bought me peridot jewelry in the past), lime green is my favorite color, and I generally prefer the look of colored gemstones in jewelry. I’m a little worried about how it will hold up, since it’s a “softer” stone (6.5-7 on the Mohs scale) but I guess time will tell, and it won’t be expensive to replace if it comes down to it.
I did consider going with Moissy for a while, though. Sounds like Moissy or Asha are right up your alley!
Post # 6
Yay for my 100th post!
@Regina Phalange: +1 palladuim rocks! the look of platinum for a fraction of the cost!
Also if you’re looking for diamond alternatives you should defintely look into moissys! They are super durable, super sparkly, and (in my opnion) wonderful! ORRR if you’re thinking of getting engaged a little later since you should for sure look into the Amora Gem. It doesn’t come out until 2015 (??) in the US but its supposed to be the best thing ever!
Post # 7
I’m definitely considering palladium. A lot will also depend on whether he goes to a local jeweler and what local jewelers will work with. I wouldn’t mind going through an online jeweler if we could fine someone reputable, however.
@lovelorlo: If our engament timeline wasn’t to get engaged before 2015 I would totally look into it! But that may be something to keep in mind if I ever replace the stones in my ring.
Post # 8
I would say palladium would be your best bet. It’s got the durability of platinum and never needs replating and it’s more cost effective than platinum.
Personally I went with 14k white gold. I like it, but the main thing you would want to ask yourself if how much it will bother you when the rhodium plating wears off. It bothered me for a while when the e-ring and band didn’t match, but rather than replating the e-ring, I’m choosing to just wait for them both to fade out to the pretty buttery hue of unplated white gold. Maybe somewhere down the line I’ll get them replated as a gift to myself for a special occasion.
As for stones, Darling Husband and I were on a very tight budget at the time and chose to go with lab created white sapphires. Also, really didn’t want a diamond, but I wouldn’t have minded going with moissanite. Maybe someday we’ll upgrade, but for now I’m really very happy with my white sapphire. It’s just as strong as any other sapphire or ruby, just one notch below diamonds on the MOHS scale, and I really like the way it looks. It’s got a unique sheen to it. Some of my relatives thought that I was marrying wealthy because they couldn’t tell the difference (haha… yeah, right). It’s got a whiter glow to it than a diamond and not quite the multicolored fire, but it’s still very pretty.
Good luck on your search!
Post # 9
I have a yellow gold band. I’m allergic to nickle which makes white gold not an option for me. I have a diamond and sapphire setting, and I would say that I think that lab created gemstones are often more beautiful and affordable than natural ones.
Post # 10
I’m hyper-sensitive to nickle, so white gold was not so much an option and I’m not a huge fan of yellow gold. I went to a local jewler who has a large selection of designer setting and the one I fell in love with just happened to be palladium. It’s actually slightly lighter than white gold, about the same price, and with very similar properties to platinum. Personally my center stone is a green sapphire which is a 9 on the mohs scale, but if you want something with more fire than a white sapphire I would definitely look into moissainte.