(Closed) Ring and Culture

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 77
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

While I find this thread to be very interesting, I also find it a bit frustrating/offensive that the word “American” is considered by many PPs to be synonymous with “overtly enamored with money, class, status etc”…notice the negative connotation. Sure, “flashiness” varies depending on where you live and what you can afford, but our culture is our culture…just as being modest and frugal is perhaps “very European”.

I live in NYC and I designed my engagement ring to be exactly what I’ve always wanted. Is it expensive and “flashy”? Certainly. Is it what is expected in my Manhattan social strata? Certainly. But, it’s what I want and I’m definitely not “overcompensating” for anything as PPs have said/suggested, and I definitely don’t think I’m better for having a larger e-ring or that my SO loves me more. That’s just crazy talk.

Sorry for the mini vent on here. I just feel compelled to defend both the “American way” and us gals who rock/will rock the larger e-rings. Culture is culture. Everyone thinks their own customs are the most natural, I guess. Oh well…

Post # 78
3175 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I am originally from Ohio, and my ring there is small/average for the city I grew up in. I’m now living in Montana, and I rarely see rings as big as/bigger than mine. So, even within the US, there is a lot of variety on what is a “normal” size. There are a lot of women here who wear plain bands or colored gemstones. It was actually slightly difficult for my (now) husband & I to agree on a size for the centerstone, as we both see “big” and “small” in terms of diamonds differently. We both prefer what we grew up with. I’m glad we found a happy medium 🙂

Post # 79
4474 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

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@bigcitybee:  I have to agree with you on how things are being described as “American”.  The definition you used, “overtly enamored with money, class, status etc” is offensive most places, including the US.  

Post # 80
49 posts
  • Wedding: January 2014

I actually love the culture of engagement rings in the US! It is not just the big diamonds, but also the designs of the setting and could spend all day looking at the pics on this forum. I plan on making my wedding band flashy and diamondy simply because I love diamonds and want my ring finger to be as sparkly as possible…but maybe this is from growing up in London and fitting into my own culture? I also forgot to mention, in my culture the men also wear engagement rings and my Fiance has his own engagement ring with his own diamonds…there are many people in London that don’t realise this and assume he is married lol

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