(Closed) Wedding Ring Upgrade – Hubby Upset?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1481 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Sounds like he’s being a little weird about you being the one to make the move or the descision here. I personally could never give up the ring my husband gave me the day he proposed..it was the best day of my life! I would however upgrade the stone if I had the money to a little bit of a bigger one…but I need a piece of that day forever! 

They say somtimes a guy needs to feel like it’s his idea….maybe you should let him lead the way on this one. Tell him what you are thinking but leave the rest up to him. Just an idea. 

Post # 4
54 posts
Worker bee

Maybe by upgrade he ment bigger stone or anny ring to match ur wedding band ?

Post # 7
1481 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I feel yah….honestly my fiance’ nailed the proposal and went pretty far to surprise the heck out of me in so many ways…..but we both got sucked into all the stress of the wedding. So hopefully you will be the other way around..crap proposal, and great wedding! I think you just have to be sensitive to his feelings on this one.

Post # 8
1390 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think this requires a come to Jesus meeting.

You just need to figure out wth he wants to do.

Post # 9
7550 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

i think from what he said he meant upgrade your wedding band, not your engagement ring. as you said it was the wedding bands bought in a hurry, not the engagement ring, so he probably put a lot of time and effort into picking the engagement ring and feels hurt that you want to get a bigger ring. and like PPs said he probably wants to look and find the perfect one for you himself 🙂

Post # 11
836 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I have lost about 4 wedding rings and 5 engagement rings… between all the camping and duning we do/used to do…  quite honest, I don’t even wear an engagement ring anymore and the wedding ring I have now I have had since my 38th birthday cruise, cost us 30 bucks in mexico and I LOVE it! 

My proposal was nothing special, but I have also been married for almost 20 years.  It’s been wonderful.  We have had our ups and downs and everything in between.  I am thankful!

If he got me a new ring I would probably wonder why he spent the money on it, but the fact that he took the time to pick it out it would mean more to me the the ring itself.  So please do not put too much emphasis on this one small part of your relationship. 


Post # 13
117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I wonder if he already bought you a new ring or had one picked out, and thats why he got pissy when you mentioned looking?

Its not wrong to want something new. I upgraded after 1 year- but I kept my old ring.. I could never give it up for sentimental purposes… but I just didnt want to wear it every day. 

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