- 5 years ago
I am new here. Frankly, I need some advice.
My hubby-to-be (htb) and I have been beat friends for 11 years and together for 7. He officially proposed this past spring with my dads blessing on a beach in Carmel. Respectfully so, he did it ringless like I asked many many years ago. I always said I wanted to pick out my own ring.
htb set a budget of $4000. I researched and researched for months, and simply couldn’t pull the trigger. I loved being ringless. I didn’t need nor did I want a ring. I kept getting borderline harassed about it by my family. Rude comments about him, and that I was engaged until I had a ring. I was appalled.
Well,this past September we went to the mall to look for clothes and to pick out a gift for his mom. Unlike me, she loves sparkly things. So we dipped into Swarovski. I fell in love with a ring…it was $100. Welp, I walked out with it super happy. Called my parents, we have the ring! I don’t know what about it, I was oddly attracted to the ring after hating everything else I saw.
I work as a nanny. My bosses mom just saw my ring for the first time and said “oh…its shiny.”
I started rethinking my choice. Does it look cheap? Hell, it was inexpensive? I didn’t even want one, so why did I choose this one? are people judging me? Do I look foolish? Are they judging him? Should I have bought a diamond to blend in, ect ect.
Now I am replaying all the original rude comments from going ringless for so long… And I am worried about thanksgiving. I am worried about judgement and sneer looks and drama. Over a stupid ring! Maybe this sounds off, I was so happy to be ringless. I didn’t need nor want a ring to show him and I would be together forever. And, I fell for a non-traditional ring.
This is is the first time my family will see it in person.
I hate when people say their engagement ring is fake. My ring is my engagement ring. I love my ring.
Please tell me though, does my ring look cheap or tacky?