(Closed) Ring as Dating Anniversary Present?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Honestly I would tell him what you said here. Seems like either he doesn’t share your views on buying a Girlfriend a ring that isn’t an engagement ring, or he is in fact hinting towards and engagement ring. Either way, I’d want to clear that up with him and get each other on the same page.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think he was just trying to be nice and replace your ring.  He may not even been thinking about engagement rings, since you’ve been dating only a year.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

I am pretty sure he meant an engagement ring. I think he was saying he needed your help to pick it out. Have you talked about getting engaged yet? If so, then for sure that was what he was hinting at. I have had a few moments when I have said the wrong thing and screwed myself (ie do you want to go look at rings and I froze and said no and I to this day have no idea why except that I was nervous and excited – I never readdressed it and let time heal that one) and other times where I said something and I emailed him a heartfelt message stating why I accidently said something I didn’t mean. I think in this case you need to explain to him that you were frazzeled and that what you meant was that you wanted an engagement ring or a middle hand ring and not both. He seems like he was trying to romantically get your approval of an engagement, but doesn’t know how to bring it up. If I were you, I would have that talk if you haven’t already. Good luck 🙂

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Oh dear, I think this is a case of just not being on the same page during a conversation. 

If he meant an engagement ring then you saying “I don’t think that it’s a good idea” = “I don’t want to marry you”

I don’t think that he would have been so quiet if he didn’t mean it. 

 

Either way it will do neither of you any good to ignore the conversation. Just bring it up in a relaxed way as soon as you can (like, TONIGHT) and say, “look, I don’t mean to be too blunt but I think we need to make sure we are both on the same page. What kind of ring did you want to buy me?”

 

Please come back and let us know how it goes. Fingers crossed he meant an engagement ring!

 

P.S. Are you sure you LOST your ring? Perhaps he took it to get your ring size? (not knowing that the middle finger can be a different size) and has looked at rings but is confused about what you’d like. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@KLC216:  I am so glad that you were able to have such an open conversation. And such a positive one as well!

He does want to get married at some point in the future

He wants to buy you jewellery now! 

Lucky girl. 🙂

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

That’s awesome! Congrats! I love open and honest conversations with the SO. It’s like they stop being guys and start listeing (briefly) lol 

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