Ring Bearer at Ring Time?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
8256 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

It sounds a bit gimmicky to me, especially if you only want it because you saw it in a movie. 

But if you want to do it, I dont think its that crazy. 

Post # 4
4926 posts
Honey bee

He sounds fairly young.  Most people I know who had ring bearers, particularly very young ring bearers, didn’t actually have the real (read: expensive) rings tied to the pillow for the ring bearers to hold and potential drop and or lose along the way.  They are usually stand-ins and the groom or best man held the actual rings.  Having a ring bearers is usually more for the cute kid factor and ceremonial honor for the kid who presumably is close to you than any actual function.

I mean, if he is old enough to actually be entrusted with the rings and appreciate having a meaningful role like presenting the rings, then cool.  But otherwise I think it is making even more of a fake spectacle out of it having him jump up in the middle of the ceremony to present a fake thing.

I wouldn’t say it is taboo, just unncessary and could potentially backfire depending on age and likelihood of fussiness or being shy or scared by crowds.

Post # 6
10293 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

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rachelissilly :  

Not weird at all to my mind and if he is a serious  little boy who likes to be a helper, perfect for him.  

Post # 7
1268 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I think it sounds cute and very appropriate.  Just make sure he’s sitting next to someone responsible who can hold the rings until it’s time for him to come up, just to minimize the risk of loss.

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