Post # 1
We are not having a wedding party, processional or anything, it’s just us, walking past the tables to the center of the room, however, I’m interested in having our son bring us our rings. How taboo is it to have him run up with them when our officiant gets to the ring part of the ceremony? I feel like I’ve seen a ton of movies where something like this happens after the minister or whoever asks for the rings, but I can’t find any info online.
We only have 50 guests and 6 tables, all close so it’s not like he’d be walking down an isle by himself, and he’s still young enough that everyone thinks everything he does is adorable. There would really just be the “with this ring, I thee wed” and kiss after he brings the rings up, am I totally pulling this out of thin air?
Post # 2
It sounds a bit gimmicky to me, especially if you only want it because you saw it in a movie.
But if you want to do it, I dont think its that crazy.
Post # 3
jellybellynelly : alright, I don’t want it because I saw it in a movie I just didn’t think it was unheard of until I started googling it, we’re not having a wedding party, and even if we were my son isn’t old enough to stand through our short ceremony, it just seemed cuter and easier to do it closer to the end. But I’m glad it doesn’t seem entirely crazy to someone else 😅
Post # 4
He sounds fairly young. Most people I know who had ring bearers, particularly very young ring bearers, didn’t actually have the real (read: expensive) rings tied to the pillow for the ring bearers to hold and potential drop and or lose along the way. They are usually stand-ins and the groom or best man held the actual rings. Having a ring bearers is usually more for the cute kid factor and ceremonial honor for the kid who presumably is close to you than any actual function.
I mean, if he is old enough to actually be entrusted with the rings and appreciate having a meaningful role like presenting the rings, then cool. But otherwise I think it is making even more of a fake spectacle out of it having him jump up in the middle of the ceremony to present a fake thing.
I wouldn’t say it is taboo, just unncessary and could potentially backfire depending on age and likelihood of fussiness or being shy or scared by crowds.
Post # 5
annabananabee : He is young, but one of his favorite activities is carrying semi large object to me or daddy and hearing thank you, so I’m not concerned about his ability to get from point a to point b, and I did purchase a special pillow with a box/clasp so they should be secure, it’s also only about 6 feet to travel, I just thought something ceremonial might seem sweeter than the groom or officiant digging them out of their pockets at the time, but maybe that’s not as weird as I thought?
Post # 6
Not weird at all to my mind and if he is a serious little boy who likes to be a helper, perfect for him.
Post # 7
I think it sounds cute and very appropriate. Just make sure he’s sitting next to someone responsible who can hold the rings until it’s time for him to come up, just to minimize the risk of loss.