Post # 1
So we were discussing the ceremony (his dad is officiating) and we would like our entire families (not just parents) to be able to participate in the ring blessing. His parents are divorced, his dad is officiating and remarried and both of grandmothers are still alive with one having a significant other who has been in the family for over 30 years. I just have my parents, lol. Since things are lopsided I would like to include the entire guestlist and not just immediate family with the ring blessing. What is the best way to handle this with 175 – 225 guests? We are thinking maybe the best man and Maid/Matron of Honor would greet guests and ask them for the blessing then rather than pass them along during the ceremony as it could take a while to reach everyone in attendance. Has anyone else done this? What are your thoughts/recommendations? I thought about just doing a a blessing circle (@ the bridal shower) which is a Native American tradition in honor of my grandmother’s heritage, but this excludes men and it’s really important to me that my uncle have an opportunity to bless this marriage although he may not attend the ceremony for religious reasons. Yes we have a prayer that everyone is participating in, but this will be in addition to that.
Post # 2
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
Logistics would be tricky with that many people! We just did ours by passing it through the bridal party, right before the vow exchange. I think if your family blessing the rings is important, maybe sit them in the front row and just pass the rings along the front row (grandparents, immediate family) and back to the bridal party. BUT, if you want everyone to bless the rings, I think your idea of having someone in the bridal party do it when people are entering may work – but keep in mind you should probably have an usher do it (as you’ll want your bridal party around) and that some people might think it’s a bit braggy. Also, if a lot of people are coming in at once, it might cause a backup or delay while people wait outside to have their turn to bless the ring and enter the ceremony space. So I guess my take home message would be it’s better to keep it small and intimate – sit the important family members right up front and just pass it through the first row.
Post # 3
FutureDrAtkins : I would but I only have my parents while his parents are divorces and remarried. He has grandparents and I do not so keeping it small annoys my ocd. My uncle may not attend if it is in a church so doing it prior to the ceremony would be best to include him. I wouldn’t require everyone to participate so perhaps that would alleviate any hold ups?