Ring bringing negative reactions

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 31
2975 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

Wow, what the hell?? It would NEVER occur to me to ask someone how much their ring cost! That is so rude. And judging you for having a different stone? That is so dumb!

I’d say try to just let it in one ear and out the other and keep your coworkers at arms-length. There is no rule that states you need to be friends with people just because you work with them.. just treat them with the basic courtesy that is expected in a work environment and don’t worry yourself over their opinions because  they do not matter. 

Post # 32
122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I guess im not understanding… they’re looking at the ring bc its too small & insinuating that OP is CHEAP??

Could someone plz elab?

Post # 33
185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - Mountains

You are happy with the ring and that’s all that matters, but I agree with PPs that you need to won what you have on your finger. However, try focusing the conversation on your wedding. Your relationship if more than a ring so focus on the day. Focus on the flowers, your dress, how you found ‘the one’. I find that some of the more critical people are those who are unhappy with their own lives for some reason or are not mature enough to understand that love means something more than a ring and what you have at the bar at your wedding. I hope you’re not inviting co-workers to the wedding…

Post # 34
516 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Oh boy. People have no class sometimes. I am so sorry. My husband and I decided to go moissanite because it fits our lifestyle, budget and beliefs. No one asks me, but I know they are asking in their head when they see. 

If you chose moissanite for a specific reason, I’d say it proudly. I would tell people what it is and that we don’t believe in paying for diamonds and we like the story and price of moissanite. Best of luck. 

Post # 35
1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 1983

Smile sweetly and say, “How kind you are to take an interest!” If they rudely push on after that, say, “Bless your heart!” Do not answer the questions no polite person would dream of asking.

Post # 36
26 posts
  • Wedding: August 2019 - Kelowna, BC, Canada

Ugh people are so rude sometimes! 

I would go back into work and tell your manager LOUDLY in front of whole bunch of coworkers “Oh! You know what I asked my fiance and its actually a MOISANNITE ring! Which is cool cause it looks amazing and Diamonds are overrated anyway!” Then walk away. 

*My engagement ring is an Emerald with 2 small diamonds at the side and I dont give a FLYING FUCK what people think I love it and I love that my fiance picked it out. tongue-out

Post # 37
1634 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

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applemaps :  My first wedding ring was a 1.25 moissy too, and I loved it!  I never really had anyone ask about it, but if they had, I would say the truth.  I LOVE my stone.  So much prettier than a diamond in my opinion, plus I would never willingly support the diamond industry!

Post # 38
2879 posts
Sugar bee

When someone asks me an inappropriate question I look straight into their eyes and say “I’ll forgive you for asking if you forgive me for not answering”. That usually shuts them up.


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