(Closed) Ring Comments

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 106
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Worker bee

Sequinedheart:  Haha I totally shopped for mine before we were planning on getting engaged. However, he told me when we were in high school & freshman in college that he wanted to get engaged junior year of college … so when junior year of college rolled around I started ring shopping so that he didn’t have to deal with me being picky for months. We didn’t get engaged until senior year haha – but we knew we were getting engaged, just not when 😉 

Post # 107
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670 posts
Busy bee

seejanebee:  A lot of things we consider to be “traditions” are actually a result of a marketing plan. (I think the most shocking one I read was the Tour De France, it started to sell more news papers.) Wedding related stuff especially in the early 1900’s fell victim to this, diamond engagement rings, surprise proposals, wedding registries etc. There are books written on the marketing of weddings. Informed decision making is crucial in this century. I think if you read all that you can about a product (like diamonds) and still want one because well you just like it, you should go for it. I just think we should know why we’re doing something/purchasing a product or getting told to purchase/do something before we make decisions, giving you the choice to say yes or no.  It’s all about having a choice in my books.

Post # 108
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40 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Sequinedheart:  My Ring is a Plat. Diamond Band with 5 diamonds (see my icon) The worst I thin I have heard was “Oh Nice room for improvment.” Personally my ring is perfect for me so I don’t get it lol

Post # 109
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I’ve only had 2 rude comments, one was like “I would never want a ring that sticks up that far” and another was “Oh, I was expecting it to be a darker blue”.

Post # 110
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79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

beb184:  yeah that’s weird. I felt a bit peeved when my mum put on my ring, and she was my mum not an acquaintance!

Post # 111
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79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I had my mother in law say “I’d never wear that ring, it would get stuff caught in it all the time” (it’s a filigree ring) then when I said it wasn’t a problem because I take it off when I cook etc she snarkily said she NEVER takes off her rings even though I know that she takes them off ALL THE TIME, I really wanted to say, “oh yeah because my e-ring is all about you isn’t it”???! but my husband would probably have given me what for (he’s a bit of a mommas boy), ugh to friggin narcissistic egomaniacal MILs. The funny thing is that her rings are the fugliest jewelry I’ve ever seen. 

Post # 112
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363 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I haven’t gotten many comments on my ring (mostly all have come from here on the bee), but my husband and I showed one of his favorite aunts and didn’t get a great response. All she said was “Oh….that’s….(long pause)…pretty” I know she was trying to sound nice but you could see the disgust on her face. She is a bit old fashioned and seemed appalled that I designed my ring because her husband picked hers out for her. I have nothing against that at all, it’s great that he knew her style and picked out something she loved. My situation is different because my husband and I have way different tastes when it comes to jewelry. He knew this and wanted me to be happy with my ring and get exactly what I wanted, and I did. People may look at me negatively for that but ultimately it doesn’t effect their lives and my husband and I are happy with our decision and that is all that matters.

Post # 113
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

At this point, I’m not sure if I’ve ever had a negative comment on any of my rings, none that were memorable enough to come to mind anyway.

I’ve had a few “Is that “real”?” comments, but I’ve personally never been offended by them, and my usual response is “Yes, it is real, but it’s not a diamond.” 

Although, I really do wish people would move past the over-used and terrible reasons for “justifying” their individual purcahses for gemstone choice, especially the diamond vs. other white gem crowds. Get what you love, but don’t feel the need to bash anyone else’s choice, the diamond alternative crowd throws out a lot of “ethical, diamond marketing brainwashing, rather spend money on X,Y,and Z, diamond owners who hate on alternatives are just trying to perpeutate that anything else is inferior because they dont’ want to admit how much they got duped, etc.”, and the diamond only crowd throws out “only wanted mined diamond because anything else is a cheap immitation, it’s more traditional, lab grown anything is a “fake”, mortified to wear anything that wasn’t a diamond, etc.” 

I’ll admit, I’ve been guilty of using some of these myself, but those types of arguments are getting so old, and WHY are we feeling any type of need to justify getting what we want? Don’t get me wrong, as explaining a personal thought process, they are excellent to share with those who are curious/want to see what other people’s opinions are so they can solidify where they stand themselves, but used as a way to make any other choice seem wrong/villanous is heartbreaking to witness. 

Being that it is almost impossible to infer accurately the tone in which things are “said” online, I tend to believe most cases are “this is just what I think, take it for what it’s worth”. 

That said, I’m sticking to my “Equal opportunity bling lover!” stance. 😀 

Post # 115
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

The only negative comment I’ve had that I know of was from a very sweet friend so it must have been a gut reaction and slipped out, she said “Ooh, ostentatious!” I was a bit nonplussed and said something about it not being that big overall compared to many rings. I wasn’t upset just surprised because of the person saying it (Not a nasty bone in her body).  

I had very positive comments from lots of people when first engaged and maybe a slightly silent reaction from a couple from which I guessed disapproval. I was surprised by the enthusiasm of our male friends who were often more excited and curious than than their wives! Now I very,very rarely get comments which I honestly prefer. 

I’m amazed at the snide comments many people experience. I’d never say anything negative about someone’s engagement ring. 

Im not American but I’m wondering whether some of the “Aw cute!” comments that people don’t like are actually not meant to be negative at all. Some people just have a limited vocabulary. I swear to god I heard a tourist describe the Alhambra in Granada as “So cute!”, not the words most people would use to describe a magnificent UNESCO World Heritage site but she was definitely admiring it. In the UK I can imagine people using “pretty” in the same way, not meaning to belittle it. 

Post # 116
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391 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

Huh, my comment was broken.  I received a few raised eyebrows when we got engaged because I chose my rings myself, so not only are the stones small (1 central stone that is 1/10 carat, plus 6 side stones that make the whole thing 1/6 carat tw), it wasn’t a surprise/he didn’t get to choose for me.  One of FI’s cousins complimented the ring, asked how he chose it, and I corrected her, and she was like “oh.”  His cousins on that side are not my favorite people, though.

Post # 117
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15 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2016

i have a beautiful princess cut solitar 0.5ct ring that i love, and have had 2 “lovely” peopel tell it was cute. f#%K them… 

Post # 118
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209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I sincerely wonder, if the “ethical choice” sparkly white stone that supposedly looks exactly like a diamond was MORE expensive than a diamond, if the people who say things like “we could have afforded x but we’re so much smarter/better/more ethical/whatever” set would still buy the other option.

 

somehow, I doubt it. or they would, and then brag that they’re so rich they don’t have to settle with lowly diamonds. In other words, it’s not actually about the stone, it’s about being superior to someone else in some way – blech.

Post # 119
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Busy bee

Sequinedheart:  Some people at work told me its gorgeous and looks amazing on my hand. others didn’t congradulate me (old miserable C U Next TuesdayS..) and saw my ring and said “is it even a diamond?” and “its looks interesting”. i guess they’ve never seen a halo before?

its an AG. Which I love to bits and think looks awesome on me and I really dont feel the need to justify my choices or my ring to anyone. One girl asked “wow how much was it?” Like are you kidding me…

I’ve been engaged for less than a week, i dont doubt i’ll hear more and even worse comments in the future. 

 

Post # 120
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357 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

acglandorf:  isn’t Princess Diana’s ring (now Catherine’s) a saphirre?

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