- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2012
Seeing as Weddingbee is most definitely to blame for my pyschological turmoil, I was hoping you lovely people could help me get my priorities straight!! (appologies in advance for long post)
My fiance and I have been together for just over four years, and whilst marriage was always on the horizon for us, I expected it to be a little while off just yet. For personal reasons, we have decided to go ahead with a simple town hall wedding in December of this year. The plan is to have a ‘proper’ wedding (with family and friends) in five or so years time, when we have the money and the time to do it properly (moreso for family’s expectations than my own.) I am very shy person and have never been thrilled at the prospect of being the centre of attention, so am excited to have a simple wedding with fiance, myself and two witnesses.
My dilemma is RING (the best sort!) As there was no proposal and as we decided to get married in a swimming pool in the middle of a casual convo, there is no engagement ring. nor, in my mind has there been a ‘proposal’.
I started this process off certain that we would just have simple wedding bands for the day and that would be it. My fiance is sad that he never had the chance to propose and wanted to suprise me in five or so years with a proposal and an engagement ring to mark our ‘proper’ wedding. I love this idea and it will make sure we keep our marriage romantic and exciting.
THEN, I discovered Weddingbee, and I realised (with some shock) that I am also succeptible to RING ENVY. I have scoured the ring board and seen beautifull engagement ringss and thought sigh I don’t want to get married without one (awful I know)
I started thinking, that instead of having a wedding ring, i could have an engagement/wedding ring. yes? good idea? I have found the most beautiful ring, which really made my heart stop, with a Moissanite stone.
I figured he could use this ring at the courthouse instead of a wedding ring. I discussed this with Fiance and he agreed that it is stunning, but worries that it won’t be full of meaning for me as I chose it myself. We both had the lovely idea of changing the Moissanite to a diamond, when he comes to ‘propose’ and we can put the Moissanite into a piece of jewellery for our first born. This way, the ring is tied into our past, present and future.
Anyway, dilemma: should i let this beautiful ring go, and go ahead with simple wedding band? If I go for the bling one, will I miss the simplicity of having a wedding band (out of the question that I have both).
We have a bit of money saved, but want to hold onto it as a few things are up in the air at the moment. The ring would come to $1000. Is this an expense that we just cannot justify?
Totally lost and need advice! Thanks to those who made it to the end, and your views will be totally appreciated!