Post # 1
So if anyone has been following (probably not lol) my FH and I have mutually decided to get married. We have already planned it, booked it and all. We have been looking at rings and have decided on a 1ct round moissy because it looks good with the band we are inheriting essentially from his late stepdad(who we loved so much) band is 5 stone 1ct tw diamonds.
Well I work in a field that is pretty wealthy and I have realized it will be small comparatively to other women I work with and go around with. I dont like the idea of having something super large and to be honest 1ct round with the band feels large already for me but not overwhelmingly so. I just dont know if people would think it’s too small, they wear 2-5ct rings at work. I dont think something that large is me though. .
I keep getting stuck in what people will think of XYZ. What would you do? We could afford a larger stone, but FH and I really like this size and the price is good. Plus I can stack a thin band that matches his wedding band in between without feeling overwhelmed.
We are going to be purchasing in the next week and I’ve just had too much time to think at this point… what do you bees think? Am I being panicky because it’s so close to happening, or am I just too wrapped up in what others think? I should be happy with what we want, right?
Photo of the ring and band for reference
This topic was modified 1 year, 9 months ago by Purmaid2019. Reason: Took out profession
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle
Don’t get caught up in the competition; you will never win. There will always be someone with more, bigger, and better. All you can do is be secure in your choice and rock it.
Post # 3
Lovely set! I don’t think you should compromise what YOU want just for the sake of trying to impress other people.
I feel like the internet/The Bee gives us the false impression that other people actually care about our rings, or will silently judge them because of their size or what kind of stone you have, but I really don’t think that’s true.
Get what you want and don’t worry about anyone else’s opinion! It sounds like you won’t be happy if you go larger, so don’t! Just get what you love and be proud of it <3 🙂
Post # 4
I like what you’re wearing. Go with what you like :). That’s probably what most bees are gonna say too. I wanted a 0.5 carat stone but ended up with a 0.75 carat because that was the minimum size available without customizing and there are many days when I wish I had a 0.75 carat stone even though everyone compliments it and says it’s so big etc.
ETA – The judgy types are gonna judge you no matter what you do!
Post # 5
Lol, well said! Most people truly don’t care. I know I don’t and I never even used to notice other people’s rings until I started wearing one. And even when I notice, I’m not trying to determine the specs. All I think is “ooh sparkly 😍”
Post # 6
Seriously who cares what type of ring the women you work with wear? They don’t care about your ring so you shouldn’t even think about theirs either!
Your ring looks lovely and the only thing that matters is you and your fiance love it.
Post # 7
And most people don’t notice each other’s rings. Wedding Bee will make you think rings are the most important thing in the world but in reality, most people honestly barely notice rings. I wouldn’t worry about it. Wear what you feel comfortable wearing.
Post # 8
Totally agree. Im 34 and when FH and I started discussing engagement I had no idea what kind of ring I wanted. I actively tried to look at coworkers rings and it was hard to get a good look. Literally the ONLY time in my life I even paid attention.
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
That set is beautiful! Honestly, no one will even think about it 99% of the time. We can get so caught up in convincing ourselves that people care about things, but truly they don’t even notice or care. You wear what you love! If someone says something negative, just know it’s because they have a deficiency in themselves that they’re trying to fill.
Post # 10
- Wedding: December 2020 - City, State
If anyone were to judge your ring, they’d think about it for max 3 minutes and then forget about it forever, whereas you will live with it 24/7!
Personally I think the one you’ve chosen fits your finger and the band really well, not too big, not too small.
I think you’ve just been sitting on it and thinking for too long. Once you go back into the store, I’m sure you’ll fall in love with it again!
Post # 11
The set is really gorgeous. I think if you went with a larger center stone, it would actually be too much with the other band. Who cares what other people think!!
Post # 12
One question: who tf gives a shit about the size of the wedding ring??? Shouldn’t the most important thing be that u marry the person u love?
Ik it doesn’t apply here but that sounds like something a gold digger would say! (again ik that it doesn’t apply here and u r not a gold digger)
Post # 13
wow. What a reaction…
I feel like this is clearly not a gold digger question. More looking for support to calm this question of what other people think vs what we like….
Thanks to all the other posters, tall have verified what we like is what we should do
Post # 14
I personally feel that when in doubt you can’t go wrong with 1 ct. It suits pretty much everyone.
I think the solitaire and band look classy together. Anyone who finds fault with it is going to judge one way or another.
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2020 - Summer Camp!
It doesn’t look small on your hand at all. With that band, I feel like a 2 ct might look too blingy, to be honest. Good choice!