(Closed) Ring Conundrum (Not Quite The Usual)

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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5663 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@luluvohn:  Maybe you can word it in a way that shows how important it would be to you to have this heirloom as part of your engagement ring. You know, that it is very special to you?? I think that could go over pretty well.

Post # 4
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454 posts
Helper bee

Maybe also throw in that it’s your ‘something old into something new’ gift from your mom for sentimental value.

ETA – it’s sweet that you’re conscious of your guy’s feelings on the matter! men can be particularly sensitive about money and things, so you’re wise to tread carefully without hurting him.

Post # 5
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472 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@luluvohn:  I would present it to him with great enthusiasm as this wonderful stroke of luck- “Honey! My mom wants to give me her necklace to make a ring- now we’ll have an heirloom ring that I’m not allergic to, that we can pass down to our kids someday, and we don’t have to worry about paying off the one from walmart that you didn’t like in the first place! Let’s sell it and add that money back to our savings! I’m so excited, I feel like this brings us one step closer to our stable future together.”

Don’t focus on the “nicer” aspect, focus on the sentimental and financially responsible aspects of this. Which are really big! I would love to have had an heirloom ring, for both reasons. 

Post # 7
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3082 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

I agree with pp, if you wanted to you could sell your second one for extra $$ (or maybe have the stones in your new rings halo/ band?) & then you’d have an heirloom (Kinda)! 🙂 But he was understanding the first time I’m assuming, so hopefully he’s okay with is as we’ll!

Post # 8
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1123 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

If you’re super sensitive to nickle, you might want to stay away from white gold, unless it’s actual, honest to goodness nickle-free white gold.

Post # 10
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1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

You could just bring it up gently that your mom is giving you a nice piece of jewelry that you can do whatever you want with….and that you were thinking it would make a nice e-ring…see what he says.  Really..it’s all in how you say it.  If you sense he’s hurt or doesn’t like the idea of doing it….then I guess you drop it for now.  Some guys get really strange when it comes to an e-ring, however, since he didn’t technically buy the one you have now, I don’t know how that could bother him.

Good luck!! Let us know what you decide and how it works out!!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Bubblesmcgee: +1 that’s a great way to spin it. 

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