(Closed) Ring Dilemma

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
5423 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

I have mixed metals and I love the contrast.  Matching rings was definitely more of a thing back in the day.  Nowadays, alot of couples do not match.  But you should do what you love

Post # 18
742 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

My Husbands ring does not remotely match mine. I think they look good together though, they highlight our choosing to unite through being very different people with different tastes. 

My parents have matching yellow gold wedding rings that neither of them like because they were more interested in what they thought wedding rings “should” look like. My mum was surprised our rings were so different from each other but after the jewelry police didn’t arrive to tell us it wasn’t allowed she started wearing a ring my grandmother gave her that she did actually like. 

in all honesty I thought matching bands was kindof cute until I suggested buying my husband a ring to match mine (mines a plain band) and he looked so sad! His is TC and one like that might damage my e-ring so I realised if it isnt a good option for both parties then it isn’t a good option at all. 


Edit: if he won’t consider matching your choice how can he expect you to consider matching his? if you compromise he needs to budge too not just you otherwise i’d tell him to put his big boy pants on and deal with non matching rings 😉

Post # 19
6354 posts
Bee Keeper

We’ll have wedding bands of matching metal, because we like how it’s traditional, the romantic symbolism of how they go together, and frankly we just like that look best, but a lot of couples don’t, these days. I see a lot of scenarios such as the man wearing a plain gold band (usually it’s the guy that prefers to stick with tradition) and the woman wearing a white metal half-eternity or something, especially on the bee. In person most of the couples I know have matching plain metal bands, but I do know one girl who has a platinum eternity ring for a wedding band and of course her husband does not. He has a yellow gold band.

Post # 20
143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

But if he gave you a white metal engagement ring how could he expect you to want a yellow gold band? No they don’t have to match. It’s pretty common now to not match. There are so many interesting masculine and feminine styles of wedding rings these days that I think it’s pretty generally accepted that couples aren’t expected to match. 

Post # 21
206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

The idea of matching bands is nice, but definitely not necessary (FI and I will not have matching bands)…

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