Post # 32
@KittyCatToe: I really like this idea. OP, you could even have the extra metal put into his ring (plus more metal of course). Then the whole ring stays in your relationship but it’s fixed to fit both of you better. The original ring is way too chunky but if a new ring was designed in the same spirit, hopefully your Fiance could be satisfied. It really just looks like the jeweler did a rough job, not necessarily like his original idea was a bad one.
Post # 33
TO @catwoman1701: first and foremost, I see you are NEW to WBee, so a BIG Welcome to “the Hive”
I hear you…
Disappointement in ERings is never a happy topic
(Which is SPECIFICALLY WHY I told Mr TTR when we started talking Marriage, that we had to pick out the Ring together… rings are personal just like clothing… not everything suits everybody… BUT with an ERing / WBand you are expected to wear it 24/7×365… so you better LOVE it)
It sounds like… your ERing and my “sparkly” WBand are the same ring.
I love my ring as a WBand, but I could see where you are a bit disappointed in it as a ERing (so non-traditional / not the norm)
There are Bees here who have similar bands that are either just Sapphires, or alternating Sapphires & Diamonds… they are truly STUNNING and go together fabulously with this particular ring you have.
If you Fiance got you one of those for your WBand it could look great as a set. Lol, just that you got the two rings in reverse order from the norm.
I will see if I can’t dig up a few pics for you… and post them here.
Hope this helps,
EDIT TO ADD – I went one better I used GOOGLE IMAGES and did a search for – Blue Sapphire Eternity Band – and got LOTS of great examples. Be it just Sapphires OR Sapphires & Diamonds, you can find a good assortment that are channel set.
My Best Advice tho, is based on experience, and also what you’ll hear from other Bees, is choose a 1/2 or 3/4 Eternity Band (not a full)… cause the Gems on the underside really can take a beating.
Post # 34
@This Time Round: Thanks for the welcome! That’s actually exactly what we are planning. 🙂 I figure that way they will be super easy to wear.
To @kgirl91, I love that idea of using the extra metal in both rings that is a wonderful way to link them.
Post # 35
Plantobee – thanks for posting that photo – I do think the jeweler did a pretty rough job on the ring and part of my feelings about it are how amateur it looks.
I really appreciate all of the honest feedback. My fiancé brought up the topic this evening because he could tell I was being quiet (thoughtful).
I (again) suggested starting over and going together to pick a setting that we both liked and to have the center stone reset. He would have none of it and I could tell he was still upset about it. He really did not want the original ring he proposed with to be altered. I told him if it meant that much to him that I keep this ring, then I would keep it because I cared more about his feelings (if it made him that upset) than the way the ring looked.
Later he suggested keeping the original ring, picking a separate wedding band that will match his (that I liked) and getting a 1-year anniversary ring that I can pick out to wear with a wedding band that I like.
I told him I liked that idea. I think we both can feel good about keeping the original ring (and it’s attached meaning), getting a wedding band I like and can pick out, and later an anniversary ring that I can pick out.
I don’t regret being honest with him about this – I feel like a huge weight has been lifted after telling him how I honestly felt. I really could not act like I loved the way the ring looked when I didn’t love it. I wish I could be less materialistic, but the reality is I really care about what this particular set of jewelry looks like because of what it means.
Post # 36
@KittyCatToe: Thanks for the drawing – I do think he was going for something like this and the jewler just did a crappy job.
Post # 37
I really feel for you because it’s not nice having to hurt someone’s feelings, however that ring doesn’t look NEW to me at all it looks old and worn??? Are you sure it’s not a used ring??
If it was newly designed the jeweller need to take some responsibility it’s poorly designed.
Post # 38
Good I am glad to see you were able to be honest and he was able to appreciate this honesty. He wouldn’t want you lying to him for the rest of his life just for the sake of his feelings, would he? =) Tell him again that you wanted to be thoughtful and how disappointed in yourself you felt, but that you felt being honest with him was the most important start to this marriage – even moreso than appeasing his feelings =) I hope that you are able to find something you are comfortable wearing and that you can love 27/7!
Post # 39
@Holly77: I know it’s not a used ring because the jewler acutually posted pictures of the different stages of the ring being made (mold, wax, etc).
Post # 40
Yeah, that is not the simple solitaire you asked for at all. I don’t get why it took you 4 months to say something though when it’s so far from what you like. If you’d said something much earlier, he might’ve been less attached and it might’ve been easier to exchange for something else. Good luck though
Post # 41
This is a sucky situation. I’m sorry.
How about you pick an awesome wedding band? Something that would look great on its own. That way you can stuff the ering away in a jewelery box, and have a beautiful (blingy) band that holds it own and reflects your taste. Who knows, maybe after some time has passed you can get the ering reset. He might realize you’d rather wear a ring you love than a ring you don’t care for.
Here are a few bands that would look pretty on their own:
Post # 42
@Haweewee: keep the center stone and have it reset! i think that’s perfectly reasonable. i think how you really feel is very understandable.
maybe the accent stones can become part of the wedding band?
Post # 43
- Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX
I like the idea posted earlier about resetting it into a similar swirl design that’s much daintier. He got to incorporate his own style into the ring and now you get to incorporate yours. You aren’t negating the thought put into the ring, or the design elements, you’re just refining it! Do you think he would go for something like that?