Post # 1
I am new to wedding bee. I am already married and wish I knew about this site then!! My dielemma is this…my husband bought me a three stone ring from Borhsiems for our engagement. Well, I really always wanted a solitaire. The center stone is .56 and very sparkly/pretty. However, the jeweler offered to buy the three stones and in return I could get a solitare with a .70 carat with an even better cut/clarity/color. The jewler is a family friend, thus the deal. My husband said “do whatever you want” and doesn’t care, but I worry, will I regret giving up the ring he proposed with/we got married with?! Any advice is really appreciated!!
Post # 2
- Wedding: April 2019 - USA
wife92 : This is something you’ll need to decide within yourself if you will regret. If you are attached to the sentimental value of your original ring, don’t do the trade-in. Just save up for a solitaire you want and wear your original as a RHR.
Post # 3
wife92 : changing the Ring won’t change your relationship… Personally, I always say that your love grows, so why shouldn’t your diamond? Haha, but seriously I upgraded my stone and it personally doesn’t bother me at all, I love looking down and seeing it… The symbol is still the same no matter what the Ring looks like. However, like the other bee said you are the only one who knows if you’ll regret it. Take a good long time to think about it!
Post # 4
I have been married for 18 years and am very clumsy so I nor longer wear my original diamond on my finger it was munched on by our disposal 🙁 it is loose for now hubby got my a quad set replacement for our 17 th anniversary and one of those came out lmao obviously bad luck anyway we just recently got my new set .
moral of my story is while the say diamonds are forever it’s really tour marriage 😉 I say think about it long and hard and then go with your gut and get what you love!
Post # 5
wife92 : I’m not super sentimental and I exchanged the ring my husband proposed with for a new one (the shank bent). It sounds like you will be sentimental so in that case I’d keep your original ring, which is very pretty By The Way. I also think you get more finger coverage with a 3 stone than a solitaire. A 0.7ct solitaire is going to not look that much bigger than the 0.56ct center you have now. I would try on some solitaires to see if you like the look before you make a decision.
Post # 6
I honestly think you will regret the minimal difference you will see going up in size by that amount.
Your ring actually looks really impressive and is very pretty!
Post # 7
Personally, I would regret it. I’m sentimental like that though. Is it an option to buy a solitaire ring? So you could have that ring without giving up your original engagement ring?
I agree with PPs that your current ring is beautiful, and if you decide to get another you should definitely try some solitaires on.
Post # 8
Hereforthecake : I totally agree!!!
I would keep the ring as is….it’s gorgeous!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 9
I understand where you’re coming from. While I love my original ring because I can imagine my nonsentimental husband picking it out, it wasn’t exactly what I originally had in mind for my engagement ring either. He’s never been adamant about me wearing THE ring he chose, so I’ve switched it up and out through the years without him batting an eye. If you think you’d feel bad about a complete trade and finances will allow (or your willing to save and wait), keep it and add a solitaire to switch out. If trading in is the only way it’s possible to get what you’ve always wanted, then do what makes you happy.
Post # 10
wife92 : I think a .7 solitaire is going to be very close in visual size to your current center and it’ just going to be like you gave away your other 2 diamonds.
Post # 11
Hello bee. I used to work right a cross from Borhsiems, :). I think you have to ask to your ❤️ If you can let go your original stone. I am more like some bees here… I don’t think I can let my original stone go and upgrade. I still kept all the gems from old memories and my previous marriage too. Bu the way the ring is gorgeous 😊