(Closed) Ring dilemma… Help! (ring porn included)

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

No idea if you can even do this, but is it possible to to use the center diamond and put it in a new setting?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

why not buy a gemstone ring for NOW and when you have more reliable income trade the ring in for one that you do want?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

My e-ring was $600 from Gabriel & Co.– my husband’s budget was well over 3 times that, but he ended up finding the perfrect ring under his intended budget.  An e-ring doesn’t have to be expensive, it’s not about the piece of jewelry, it’s about the promise it represents.  

Personally, I think your mom’s ring is beautiful– couldn’t you wear that ring for the next year or so, then once you both have good jobs, you can consider the upgrade? 

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’d just use teh diamonds in this ring to make a new one. Looks like you could use teh center for a nice marquise solitaire, or use the round ones also and make it a halo.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

If he can’t afford it he can’t afford it. I wouldn’t pressure him. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I thinkl a gemstone for now, upgrade later would be a great option. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’d reset. You could find a great semi mount from Stuller that your mom’s diamonds could go in.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would reuse the diamonds and perhaps even the gold if you could!

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I didn’t get a ring when we got engaged. The ring won’t affect whether you’re negaged or not. No matter whether you wear your mom’s ring, a gemstone ring, or an onion ring, if you say you’re engaged, you are engaged.

If you insist on having a ring, or if your partner insists on you wearing one, you should work out a compromise. Your mom’s ring is lovely–if you prefer not to wear it as a ring, you could wear it on a necklace until you trade it in. Or limegreenbride’s suggestion to get it reset was great. You could even sell some of the side stones to help cover the cost of resetting, if you don’t want to keep all the diamonds in the new setting. You could also consider getting a CZ or moisannite stone for now (no one will notice–really) and upgrading to diamonds later.

Don’t let waiting for a ring get in the way of your relationship! It’s the relationship that matters, not the shinies.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

@limegreenbride:  +1. Take the center stone for your new ring.

If he says he can’t afford it and wants to spend over 10Gs on your ring thats crazy. He shouldn’t be putting himself to the high standard of the gaudy rings that run in his family. This ring should be for YOU! You let him know you would rather be engaged NOW with a still wonderful ring that cost less the 3grand please then wait forever that you don’t have. Tell him ya gotta stick to the timeline. Upgrades can happen later. This is happening NOW

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2012

What about just a small diamond band? Blue Nile and Costco have some really pretty ones that are much more reasonable than a ring with a center stone. I love the look of just an eternity band alone, so classic, and he still gets to give you diamonds.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2012

What about just a small diamond band? Blue Nile and Costco have some really pretty ones that are much more reasonable than a ring with a center stone. I love the look of just an eternity band alone, so classic, and he still gets to give you diamonds.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Sweetheartchic:  Aw, thank you! I wish I had a better suggestion for you..rings can get expensive for sure..I hope you find what you’re looking for!

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