Post # 1
Mr CL and I went to see a jeweller a few weeks ago to discuss wedding rings. She had been recommended to us by a colleague of his, and I really love the idea of having our rings custom made by a young, local artist. We went to see the designs at the weekend and they are absolutely beautiful. However, she’s quoting around twice as much as we were hoping to spend. I realise that going down the bespoke route is going to be pricey, but I didn’t realise quite how much it would be.
The ring she designed for me is 4mm wide, 18ct white gold, shaped to fit my engagement ring and with some tiny diamonds scattered through the band.
The one she designed for Mr CL is 7mm wide, 18ct white gold with 3 tiny diamonds to match mine and a kind of hammered and chipped effect, to reflect his love of rock climbing.
I guess she must have seen our faces when we got the quotes, as she said there were a few things she could do if we had a budget to work with (like reducing the number of diamonds). The thing is, I really love what she’s designed but I just don’t think we can justify it. On the other hand, I don’t ever see us upgrading our rings, so would it be worthwhile splurging now and cutting back on some other wedding related bits? My dress was already more expensive than intended (though my mum paid for that) and I feel like it’s kind of getting a little out of control.
Post # 3
Are you certain there is nothing similar on some of these reputable websites? Local artist or not, nobody should charge so much…and the expensive part is the gold weight itself because small diamond scattered around aren’t enough to justify a price jump. They are insufficiant in the cost. People can charge whatever they feel like once you like something. I’d say keep on a poker face and try to negotiate. Ask how many grams of gold it is, divide it out and ask, so your charging me how much per gram? 18k should not be more than $75 per gram, and if she is charging way more, ask how much the ct weight is of the diamonds. Put some pressure on her, it won’t cost her any more to answer your questions.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
If you really want these rings and you can pay it off in one payment while still having money saved for emergencies, I would say it’s okay to splurge a little! It is my opinion that rings and photography are the things you should be able to splurge on in a wedding, because they are what lasts forever. That said, you don’t have to go with this artist. Try to get quotes from other jewelers in your area (or online!). If you tell her that you are shopping around, she might change her tune. I’ve heard from an independent jeweler that small melee diamonds shouldn’t cost more than a couple dollars each, so I believe she is playing games with you.
Post # 5
I would check other local jewelers too. I’m having similar issues at the moment so I know how it can feel. I was (am) bewildered!
One jeweler quoted me over £ 1000 ($1500 ish?) more than the one we eventually went with, and all the while they insisted that they were only charging for material cost and gave us money off craftsmanship :/ they did at least say that removing stones wouldn’t make much difference at this small size. The engagement ring we went with in the end had twice as much Platinum by weight and cost so much less!
Post # 6
Price shop a bit to see what’s reasonable for similar items. Many jewelers can be negotiated with, so if you know another jeweler charges 1800 for a similar item, while she’s charging 3000, you can bring that price back to her to let her know it’s too steep. Etsy sells pieces similar to what you’re looking at, so that’ll make for an easy comparison.